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As <a href=\"//coursofppt.com/relationships/dating/dr-ruths-road-map-for-dating-apps/\">app dating</a> has evolved, so have those who abuse this new method of finding a partner. Not only do you need to know how to deal with rejection, but you have to know how to deal with it on social media.\r\n\r\nThat’s not to say that everyone you’d meet using the old methods had perfect manners, but I do find that some of these new ways of making people feel miserable are almost worse as they can be such time wasters.\r\n<blockquote>\r\n<p class=\"Blockquote\">\"No ghosting!\" — Dr. Ruth Westheimer</p>\r\n</blockquote>\r\n<div class=\"video-player-organism\"></div>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>So, what is<strong><em> ghosting </em></strong>someone? You probably know, but in case you don’t, ghosting means someone just stops communicating without giving any reason why. Suddenly your texts and any other forms of communication might just as well have not been sent.</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">Would you ghost someone? If you would, or if you have, then you shouldn’t feel too badly if someone does it to you. If it’s behavior that you condemn, then chalk up being ghosted as part of the process of discovery and realize that you just learned something about this person that would have made him or her unacceptable to you in the long run.</p>\r\n\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li><strong><em>Benching</em></strong> is when someone is stringing you along. It can be more harmful than ghosting because it leaves you hope and might cause you to wait for this person, which is just a waste of time. According to my philosophy, wasting time is the worst thing you can do since we all have so precious little of it. So, if you sense that you might be on the bench, forget about this person as quickly as possible and move on.</li>\r\n \t<li><strong><em>Orbiting</em> </strong>occurs when you think you’ve been ghosted but discover that the person is still checking up on you on various social media sites. Is he/she still interested? Is this a form of flirting or just being curious? It’s hard to tell, which makes this habit very annoying.</li>\r\n \t<li><strong><em>Breadcrumbing</em></strong> occurs when someone is leaving a trail of social “breadcrumbs” so that you assume there’s some interest, but you don’t know for sure because there’s no direct contact, and you want to scream, “&^%* or get off the pot!”</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<p class=\"article-tips remember\">Be careful of all of these new ways of being rude because they’re distractions. 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Dealing with rejection is hard but becomes less so when it occurs regularly.\r\n\r\nThe danger with frequent rejection is that you put up a wall in order to protect yourself from being disappointed, and that in turn causes you to hide your true personality — thus making it even more likely that you’ll be rejected.\r\n\r\n[caption id=\"attachment_263320\" align=\"alignnone\" width=\"535\"]<img class=\"size-full wp-image-263320\" src=\"//coursofppt.com/wp-content/uploads/sex-ghosting.jpg\" alt=\"Woman being ghosted/rejected\" width=\"535\" height=\"357\" /> ©fizkes[/caption]\r\n<p class=\"article-tips remember\">Is it worthwhile to be rejected again and again, each rejection delivering a blow to your ego? If in the end you’re going to discover true love, then the answer would be yes. 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Not only do you need to know how to deal with rejection, but you have to know how to deal with it on social media.\r\n\r\nThat’s not to say that everyone you’d meet using the old methods had perfect manners, but I do find that some of these new ways of making people feel miserable are almost worse as they can be such time wasters.\r\n<blockquote>\r\n<p class=\"Blockquote\">\"No ghosting!\" — Dr. Ruth Westheimer</p>\r\n</blockquote>\r\n<div class=\"video-player-organism\"></div>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>So, what is<strong><em> ghosting </em></strong>someone? You probably know, but in case you don’t, ghosting means someone just stops communicating without giving any reason why. Suddenly your texts and any other forms of communication might just as well have not been sent.</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">Would you ghost someone? If you would, or if you have, then you shouldn’t feel too badly if someone does it to you. 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Dealing with rejection is hard but becomes less so when it occurs regularly.\r\n\r\nThe danger with frequent rejection is that you put up a wall in order to protect yourself from being disappointed, and that in turn causes you to hide your true personality — thus making it even more likely that you’ll be rejected.\r\n\r\n[caption id=\"attachment_263320\" align=\"alignnone\" width=\"535\"]<img class=\"size-full wp-image-263320\" src=\"//coursofppt.com/wp-content/uploads/sex-ghosting.jpg\" alt=\"Woman being ghosted/rejected\" width=\"535\" height=\"357\" /> ©fizkes[/caption]\r\n<p class=\"article-tips remember\">Is it worthwhile to be rejected again and again, each rejection delivering a blow to your ego? If in the end you’re going to discover true love, then the answer would be yes. But to hasten the pace of getting that one special person you’re seeking, I’d suggest learning from those rejections and seeing whether there’s something you might be doing that is putting others off.</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab2\" >Don't let rejection defeat you — put yourself out there</h2>\r\nI accept that these days a lot more relationships are formed via computers and phones than using the older methods. You almost have no choice but to follow the herd. Notice I said “almost.” The older methods of finding a partner may not be used as much, but they still can work.\r\n<p class=\"article-tips tip\">My advice to anyone looking for someone to date is to tell everyone you know — friends, family members, neighbors — that you’re available. You might think that your great aunt doesn’t know any single people your age, but the women she plays cards with might have relatives who would be perfect.</p>\r\nThe other piece of advice I have for singles is not to sit home by the phone. I understand that this expression is a little dated since in today’s world your phone goes with you wherever you go, but there are plenty of people who will binge-watch some show, maybe even on their phone, instead of going out. If you’re outside, there’s always the chance of meeting someone. If you glue yourself inside your own four walls, chance meetings are out of the question.\r\n\r\nSome people say they don’t like the bar scene, and whenever they go to the corner launderette, there isn’t a single person in sight.\r\n\r\nSo, what do you do? You do something that you enjoy. You take a class in a subject that’s always interested you. You go to a ball game. You take your phone to the nearest Starbucks. 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As more people become comfortable talking about their personal experiences of gender and sexual orientation, we see there’s a broad spectrum that stretches far beyond male, female, straight, and gay.\r\n\r\n[caption id=\"attachment_299343\" align=\"alignnone\" width=\"630\"]<img class=\"size-full wp-image-299343\" src=\"//coursofppt.com/wp-content/uploads/progress-pride-flag-adobeStock_361154119.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"630\" height=\"354\" /> ©Oasisamuel / Adobe Stock[/caption]\r\n\r\nBut with so many sexual and gender identity terms, including gay, lesbian, bisexual, bigender, genderfluid, pansexual, and several others, it can get confusing. Read on to learn about these identities and other related terminology.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab1\" ><strong>Agender</strong></h2>\r\nBeing agender may be experienced as identifying outside the binary of man and woman, fluctuating between gender identities or feeling as though no gender identity fully encapsulates one’s experience. 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Likewise, someone who is <em>aromantic</em> doesn’t experience romantic attraction. The two terms often come up together, but someone can identify as one, both, or neither. These terms have to do with sexual orientation, not gender identity.\r\n\r\nSome asexual people may still choose to engage in sexual activities, and others don’t want to. Some aromantic people may still find themselves with a long-term partner, or they may not want that. Everyone experiences these attractions to a different extent, and there are several more nuanced identities within the ace and aro umbrellas.\r\n\r\nThese identities can remind us of how baked-in the cultural messaging is that everyone wants a sexual and romantic partner. <em>Allonormativity </em>is the assumption that everyone wants a sexual partner, and <em>amatonormativity</em> is the assumption that everyone is seeking romance.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab3\" ><strong>Bisexual</strong></h2>\r\nA person who is bisexual experiences attraction to more than one gender, including their own (if they identify with one). Bisexuality is not a gender identity, and therefore anyone can be bisexual — cisgender people, trans people, and people who don't conform to gender at all. It's also possible to be biromantic and asexual — biromantic people experience romantic attraction to more than one gender, but not sexual attraction. Bisexuals can use any pronouns, so ask if you're unsure!\r\n\r\nThere is a lot of confusion surrounding bisexuality. Many people think bisexual means \"attracted to two genders\" due to the \"bi\" part, with the default being men and women due to cisheteronormativity. However, this is not the case — prior to being the label we use today, \"bisexual\" was actually used for intersex individuals, which is where the notion of \"two\" originated. Bisexuality is inclusive and doesn't exist on a binary, and bisexuals can and do date trans people — and some <em>are</em> trans.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab4\" ><strong>Bigender</strong></h2>\r\nA person who is bigender experiences exactly two gender identities — sometimes at the same time and sometimes shifting between the two. This often refers to people who identify as both male and female but can also include non-binary identities as well. For example, a bigender person might identify as agender and genderqueer, or any other combination of two genders.\r\n\r\nBigender people may use any set or pronouns — if you don’t know which to use, ask! They also may have any style of gender presentation, whether that is traditionally feminine or masculine, androgynous, or anything else. Sometimes bigender people shift their gender presentation based on which gender they feel more strongly day-to-day. Sometimes they don’t!\r\n\r\nBigender people may be any sexuality — being bigender is not the same as being bisexual. Some bigender people consider themselves trans, and some experience dysphoria and may choose to transition in some way. But this isn’t the case for everyone.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab5\" ><strong>Cisgender</strong></h2>\r\nIf someone is cisgender, that means their gender identity matches the gender they were assigned at birth. The term is often used to serve as an opposite of transgender. It’s usually safe to assume a cis man will use he/him pronouns and a cis woman will use she/her pronouns.\r\n\r\nBeing cisgender is separate from sexual orientation. For example, a cisgender person can be lesbian, asexual, heterosexual, or any other sexual orientation.\r\n\r\nWe might associate the term <em>cisgender</em> with people who have never questioned their gender identity and have always lived as the gender they were assigned at birth. However, it’s always okay to question your gender identity and conclude that you <em>do</em> identify with the gender you were assigned at birth, ending up with a fuller understanding of what your gender means to you.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab6\" ><strong>Folx</strong></h2>\r\nThis is an alternate spelling of the word “folks” that’s intended to specifically signal inclusivity. The queer community often uses alternate spellings of gendered words to make them less or non-gendered, often adding an “x” to the word. While “folks” is already gender neutral, using the spelling “folx” instead specifically indicates that the queer community (see the section “Queer & Questioning” for what “queer” means) or other marginalized groups are included, very intentionally.\r\n\r\nFor more information and discussion around its use and a few other similar words, <a href=\"//www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a40314411/folx-meaning/\">check out this article</a>.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab7\" ><strong>Gay</strong></h2>\r\nGay is often used as an umbrella term to describe anyone in the LGBTQ+ community who experiences sexual and/or romantic attraction to someone of the same gender. However, it’s also sometimes used to specifically refer to men who are attracted to men.\r\n\r\nGay people can have any gender identity and use any pronouns. This is a broad term, so it’s always good to ask if someone identifies as gay or if they prefer a different term, such as lesbian or queer.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab8\" ><strong>Gender identity & presentation</strong></h2>\r\nThe term gender identity refers to a person’s internal sense of who they know themselves to be. Terms for gender identity aim to capture people’s relation or lack thereof to the social constructs that their culture aligns with the sex they were assigned at birth.\r\n\r\nGender presentation (also called gender expression) is the way in which people show their gender, including physical appearance, clothing, hairstyles, mannerisms, and more.\r\n\r\nOne’s gender identity and gender presentation are separate from sexual orientation or romantic attraction (or lack thereof). People can be of any gender identity and present however they choose while experiencing any variety of attractions and using any variety of pronouns.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab9\" ><strong>Genderfluid</strong></h2>\r\nA person who is genderfluid does not experience a fixed gender — that is, their gender changes over time. These changes may happen over months or years, or a person may experience several genders during the course of a single day.\r\n\r\nGenderfluid people may identify as any combination of genders that they shift between — male, female, agender, bigender, or any other identities. They may use any sets of pronouns, and some people may ask others to change the pronouns they use for them based on what gender they are feeling at a given time.\r\n\r\nSome genderfluid people consider themselves trans, while others don’t. They may also consider themselves nonbinary, but they are not automatically either.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab10\" ><strong>Gender nonconforming</strong></h2>\r\nGender nonconformity involves a person's rejection of a culture's gender norm expectations. The term usually refers to gender expression or presentation (how someone dresses), behavior, preferences and/or roles that don't conform to the gender norms for an individual's gender assigned at birth.\r\n\r\nGender nonconformity is about how you \"show up\" in the world, instead of your gender identity. Anyone of any gender can be gender non-conforming.\r\n\r\nExamples of gender nonconformity in American culture cultures could include a man wearing eyeliner or being a stay-at-home dad, or a woman wearing a suit on her wedding day or pursuing a career instead of motherhood.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab11\" ><strong>Genderqueer</strong></h2>\r\nGenderqueer can be used in two ways: It can be used as an umbrella term similar to “nonbinary” (though this is less common than it used to be), or it can describe an individual’s gender experience. When it is used to describe an individual, genderqueer generally means someone who doesn’t identify with the gender binary. They might identify with multiple genders, no gender, or something that is difficult to define (thus “queer”).\r\n\r\nGenderqueer people may identify as trans, but not all do. They might use any pronoun, so it is best to ask.\r\n\r\nJacob Tobia, a fairly well-known genderqueer person, American LGBT rights activist, writer, actor, producer, and television host, shares five things to know about being genderqueer <a href=\"//www.youtube.com/watch?v=4hU5Ebu29CQ\">in this video</a>.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab12\" ><strong>Intersex</strong></h2>\r\nIntersex refers to people who, for a variety of different reasons, do not fall neatly into either the male or female binary sex categories. Male and female as sex categories refer to a culturally-agreed-upon collection of primary (genitalia and gonads), secondary (breasts, facial hair, etc.), and genetic (chromosomes) sex characteristics and markers.\r\n\r\nSome people know they are intersex from birth. Others may find out at puberty, when our secondary sex characteristics begin to come in. Still others may not know until well into adulthood, especially if they have an intersex variant that affects internal organs or chromosomes.\r\n\r\nNot all intersex people identify as LGBTQ+. Some people find community with LGBTQ+ people because they are intersex, some do because they have another identity that falls within the community, and others do not find it useful or aligned with their experience.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab13\" ><strong>Lesbian</strong></h2>\r\nA lesbian is someone who experiences and prefers sexual or romantic attraction to women and between women. However, a non-binary person can also consider identifying as a lesbian. Some lesbians also refer to themselves as gay. Regarding pronouns, just ask the person.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab14\" ><strong>Nonbinary</strong></h2>\r\nNonbinary, sometimes shortened to NB or enby, is an adjective describing a person who does not identify exclusively as a man or woman. Non-binary people may identify as being both a man and a woman, somewhere in between, or as falling completely outside these categories.\r\n\r\nNonbinary can also be used as an umbrella term encompassing identities such as agender, bigender, third gender, genderqueer or gender-fluid. Some might also identify as transgender, but not all non-binary people do.\r\n\r\nThere are several pronouns used in the nonbinary community. These include:\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>She, her, her, hers, and herself</li>\r\n \t<li>He, him, his, his, and himself</li>\r\n \t<li>They, them, their, theirs, and themself</li>\r\n \t<li>Ze/zie, hir, hir, hirs, and hirself</li>\r\n \t<li>Xe, xem, xyr, xyrs, and xemself</li>\r\n \t<li>Ve, ver, vis, vis, and verself</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<h2 id=\"tab15\" ><strong>Pansexual</strong></h2>\r\nPansexuality is usually defined as experiencing sexual attraction to all gender identities or being attracted to someone <em>regardless of </em>their gender identity. Its use and visibility has increased in recent decades alongside the understanding of gender as existing beyond a binary of woman and man.\r\n\r\nOften this term is used interchangeably with bisexuality, but there is a distinction between the two. Bisexuality is typically defined as attraction to more than one gender (not restricted to woman/man binary). Pansexuality is typically considered to be under the umbrella of bisexuality since it’s distinguished by an attraction to someone despite their gender.\r\n\r\nOmnisexuality is another term sometimes used by folx who wish to emphasize that gender is important to how they find someone attractive.\r\n\r\nTo learn more about being pansexual, check out these sites: <a href=\"//www.stonewall.org.uk/about-us/news/5-common-misconceptions-about-pansexuality\">Stonewall Org — Pansexual Misconceptions</a>; <a href=\"//www.them.us/story/pansexuality-101\">Them —</a><a href=\"//www.them.us/story/pansexuality-101\"> Article</a>; <a href=\"//www.verywellmind.com/what-is-pansexual-5075602\">Very Well Mind — Definition Page</a>; <a href=\"//biresource.org/\">Bisexual Resource Center</a>.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab16\" ><strong>Pronouns</strong></h2>\r\nPronouns are grammatical terms used to reference a person in place of a proper noun. A few examples are “she/her/hers,” “they/them/theirs,” and “he/hers/any. There’s no limit to how many pronouns an individual may be comfortable using. There’s also no definitive list of pronouns and many are still being created as our collective understanding of gender identity and expression evolves. Some people prefer going by their name only. Other folx may alternate between pronouns.\r\n\r\nWhether you’re meeting someone for the first time, haven’t asked in a while, or feel unsure how to address someone, it’s best just to ask! You can try to say things like, “What pronouns do you use?” or “Can you remind me what pronouns you use?” Sharing your pronouns (like in your email signatures or as part of your greetings in phone calls and meetings) is a great place to start as well.\r\n\r\nFor more resources and information, check out these sites: <a href=\"//uwm.edu/lgbtrc/support/gender-pronouns/\">University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee — Pronouns Resource Page</a>; <a href=\"//gaycenter.org/pronouns/\">The Center — Resources</a>.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab17\" ><strong>Queer & questioning</strong></h2>\r\nThe Q in the LGBTQ+ acronym refers to queer and/or questioning. Queer is another umbrella term that can include any LGBTQ+ identity. People who use this label often use it to mean they fall outside of the cultural norms of binary gender and heterosexuality. Some may also use this label when they hold more than one LGBTQ+ identity.\r\n\r\nIt has become more popular mostly among younger folks who have been reclaiming the label “queer” as it has been used as a slur in the past. Because of this, not everyone in the community feels comfortable identifying as queer. Before using this term to describe a person or group, it’s good to ask if they like to use this label or not.\r\n\r\nThe term “questioning” can apply to anyone who is questioning or exploring their gender identity, sexual orientation, or both. It often refers to youth, but it can apply to anyone, as it’s not uncommon for our identities to shift throughout our life. Someone who is questioning may be wondering for the first time if they fit into the LGBTQ+ community, or they may be exploring different identity labels or pronouns.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab18\" ><strong>Transgender</strong></h2>\r\nTransgender (sometimes shortened as “trans”) is an umbrella term describing individuals whose gender identity differs from the one assigned to them at birth. Non-binary individuals (and those who may identify otherwise outside of the gender binary) may also consider themselves as part of the transgender spectrum.\r\n\r\n<a href=\"//translifeline.org/resource/assigned-gender/\">Assigned gender </a>is the medical term used to describe the assumed gender of a newborn child based on their primary sex characteristics (genitals). One’s gender identity does not indicate how one’s gender is expressed, nor what sexual attraction an individual may or may not experience.\r\n\r\nTransgender people can experience any sexual orientation and romantic attraction (or lack thereof) and may use a variety of pronouns. As always, when you’re unsure what pronouns someone goes by, it’s best to ask. To learn more and for further resources, check out these books and sites: <a href=\"//www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/understanding-gender-identities/\">The Trevor Project Resources</a>; <a href=\"//translifeline.org/\">Trans Lifeline Resources</a>.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab19\" ><strong>Two-spirit</strong></h2>\r\nTwo-spirit is a term used by some indigenous peoples in North America and refers to a person who identifies as having both a masculine and feminine spirit. It is an umbrella term which can be used to describe sexual orientation, gender, and/or spiritual identity. If you see a “2” or “2S” in a longer version of the LGBTQ+ acronym, this is what it stands for.\r\n\r\nThe term “two-spirit” was coined by Elder Myra Laramee in 1990 as a way for Native American and First Nations peoples to refer to their experiences with non-Western and non-binary gender, sexuality, and spiritual selves. It is a translation of the Anishinaabemowin term <em>niizh manidoowag</em>, or literally “two spirits.”\r\n\r\nPeople who fall under the umbrella term “two-spirit” may use just that label or may also use other culturally-specific terminology for themselves. Not every LGBTQ+ Native American or First Nations person is two-spirit.\r\n\r\nUnlike the other terms discussed in this deck, “two-spirit” is a closed identity. This means that not everyone can use this term to describe themselves. Because of its cultural significance, only Native American and First Nations people may be and use the term two-spirit.","description":"You’ve probably noticed people are using a variety of terms these days to describe gender and sexual identities. As more people become comfortable talking about their personal experiences of gender and sexual orientation, we see there’s a broad spectrum that stretches far beyond male, female, straight, and gay.\r\n\r\n[caption id=\"attachment_299343\" align=\"alignnone\" width=\"630\"]<img class=\"size-full wp-image-299343\" src=\"//coursofppt.com/wp-content/uploads/progress-pride-flag-adobeStock_361154119.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"630\" height=\"354\" /> ©Oasisamuel / Adobe Stock[/caption]\r\n\r\nBut with so many sexual and gender identity terms, including gay, lesbian, bisexual, bigender, genderfluid, pansexual, and several others, it can get confusing. Read on to learn about these identities and other related terminology.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab1\" ><strong>Agender</strong></h2>\r\nBeing agender may be experienced as identifying outside the binary of man and woman, fluctuating between gender identities or feeling as though no gender identity fully encapsulates one’s experience. Agender experiences overlap with non-binary, genderqueer, genderfluid, genderfree, genderless, and gender non-conforming identities, and can often flux between multiple groups at once.\r\n\r\nAgender folx (learn about the term “folx” in the section below) may experience gender dysphoria (bodily or psychologically), pursue medical and hormonal transitions, go by any pronouns (to learn about pronouns, see the section below) they specify, and experience any form of attraction (sexual, romantic, emotional, aesthetic, etc.).\r\n\r\nTo learn more about being agender how agender folx describe their experiences, check out these sites: <a href=\"//www.gendergp.com/what-is-agender/\">GenderGP</a><a href=\"//www.gendergp.com/what-is-agender/\"> — Article</a>; <a href=\"//nonbinary.wiki/wiki/Agender\">Nonbinary Wiki</a>; <a href=\"//gender.fandom.com/wiki/Agender\">Gender Wiki</a>.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab2\" ><strong>Asexual & aromantic</strong></h2>\r\nSomeone who is <em>asexual</em> doesn’t experience sexual attraction. Likewise, someone who is <em>aromantic</em> doesn’t experience romantic attraction. The two terms often come up together, but someone can identify as one, both, or neither. These terms have to do with sexual orientation, not gender identity.\r\n\r\nSome asexual people may still choose to engage in sexual activities, and others don’t want to. Some aromantic people may still find themselves with a long-term partner, or they may not want that. Everyone experiences these attractions to a different extent, and there are several more nuanced identities within the ace and aro umbrellas.\r\n\r\nThese identities can remind us of how baked-in the cultural messaging is that everyone wants a sexual and romantic partner. <em>Allonormativity </em>is the assumption that everyone wants a sexual partner, and <em>amatonormativity</em> is the assumption that everyone is seeking romance.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab3\" ><strong>Bisexual</strong></h2>\r\nA person who is bisexual experiences attraction to more than one gender, including their own (if they identify with one). Bisexuality is not a gender identity, and therefore anyone can be bisexual — cisgender people, trans people, and people who don't conform to gender at all. It's also possible to be biromantic and asexual — biromantic people experience romantic attraction to more than one gender, but not sexual attraction. Bisexuals can use any pronouns, so ask if you're unsure!\r\n\r\nThere is a lot of confusion surrounding bisexuality. Many people think bisexual means \"attracted to two genders\" due to the \"bi\" part, with the default being men and women due to cisheteronormativity. However, this is not the case — prior to being the label we use today, \"bisexual\" was actually used for intersex individuals, which is where the notion of \"two\" originated. Bisexuality is inclusive and doesn't exist on a binary, and bisexuals can and do date trans people — and some <em>are</em> trans.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab4\" ><strong>Bigender</strong></h2>\r\nA person who is bigender experiences exactly two gender identities — sometimes at the same time and sometimes shifting between the two. This often refers to people who identify as both male and female but can also include non-binary identities as well. For example, a bigender person might identify as agender and genderqueer, or any other combination of two genders.\r\n\r\nBigender people may use any set or pronouns — if you don’t know which to use, ask! They also may have any style of gender presentation, whether that is traditionally feminine or masculine, androgynous, or anything else. Sometimes bigender people shift their gender presentation based on which gender they feel more strongly day-to-day. Sometimes they don’t!\r\n\r\nBigender people may be any sexuality — being bigender is not the same as being bisexual. Some bigender people consider themselves trans, and some experience dysphoria and may choose to transition in some way. But this isn’t the case for everyone.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab5\" ><strong>Cisgender</strong></h2>\r\nIf someone is cisgender, that means their gender identity matches the gender they were assigned at birth. The term is often used to serve as an opposite of transgender. It’s usually safe to assume a cis man will use he/him pronouns and a cis woman will use she/her pronouns.\r\n\r\nBeing cisgender is separate from sexual orientation. For example, a cisgender person can be lesbian, asexual, heterosexual, or any other sexual orientation.\r\n\r\nWe might associate the term <em>cisgender</em> with people who have never questioned their gender identity and have always lived as the gender they were assigned at birth. However, it’s always okay to question your gender identity and conclude that you <em>do</em> identify with the gender you were assigned at birth, ending up with a fuller understanding of what your gender means to you.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab6\" ><strong>Folx</strong></h2>\r\nThis is an alternate spelling of the word “folks” that’s intended to specifically signal inclusivity. The queer community often uses alternate spellings of gendered words to make them less or non-gendered, often adding an “x” to the word. While “folks” is already gender neutral, using the spelling “folx” instead specifically indicates that the queer community (see the section “Queer & Questioning” for what “queer” means) or other marginalized groups are included, very intentionally.\r\n\r\nFor more information and discussion around its use and a few other similar words, <a href=\"//www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a40314411/folx-meaning/\">check out this article</a>.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab7\" ><strong>Gay</strong></h2>\r\nGay is often used as an umbrella term to describe anyone in the LGBTQ+ community who experiences sexual and/or romantic attraction to someone of the same gender. However, it’s also sometimes used to specifically refer to men who are attracted to men.\r\n\r\nGay people can have any gender identity and use any pronouns. This is a broad term, so it’s always good to ask if someone identifies as gay or if they prefer a different term, such as lesbian or queer.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab8\" ><strong>Gender identity & presentation</strong></h2>\r\nThe term gender identity refers to a person’s internal sense of who they know themselves to be. Terms for gender identity aim to capture people’s relation or lack thereof to the social constructs that their culture aligns with the sex they were assigned at birth.\r\n\r\nGender presentation (also called gender expression) is the way in which people show their gender, including physical appearance, clothing, hairstyles, mannerisms, and more.\r\n\r\nOne’s gender identity and gender presentation are separate from sexual orientation or romantic attraction (or lack thereof). People can be of any gender identity and present however they choose while experiencing any variety of attractions and using any variety of pronouns.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab9\" ><strong>Genderfluid</strong></h2>\r\nA person who is genderfluid does not experience a fixed gender — that is, their gender changes over time. These changes may happen over months or years, or a person may experience several genders during the course of a single day.\r\n\r\nGenderfluid people may identify as any combination of genders that they shift between — male, female, agender, bigender, or any other identities. They may use any sets of pronouns, and some people may ask others to change the pronouns they use for them based on what gender they are feeling at a given time.\r\n\r\nSome genderfluid people consider themselves trans, while others don’t. They may also consider themselves nonbinary, but they are not automatically either.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab10\" ><strong>Gender nonconforming</strong></h2>\r\nGender nonconformity involves a person's rejection of a culture's gender norm expectations. The term usually refers to gender expression or presentation (how someone dresses), behavior, preferences and/or roles that don't conform to the gender norms for an individual's gender assigned at birth.\r\n\r\nGender nonconformity is about how you \"show up\" in the world, instead of your gender identity. Anyone of any gender can be gender non-conforming.\r\n\r\nExamples of gender nonconformity in American culture cultures could include a man wearing eyeliner or being a stay-at-home dad, or a woman wearing a suit on her wedding day or pursuing a career instead of motherhood.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab11\" ><strong>Genderqueer</strong></h2>\r\nGenderqueer can be used in two ways: It can be used as an umbrella term similar to “nonbinary” (though this is less common than it used to be), or it can describe an individual’s gender experience. When it is used to describe an individual, genderqueer generally means someone who doesn’t identify with the gender binary. They might identify with multiple genders, no gender, or something that is difficult to define (thus “queer”).\r\n\r\nGenderqueer people may identify as trans, but not all do. They might use any pronoun, so it is best to ask.\r\n\r\nJacob Tobia, a fairly well-known genderqueer person, American LGBT rights activist, writer, actor, producer, and television host, shares five things to know about being genderqueer <a href=\"//www.youtube.com/watch?v=4hU5Ebu29CQ\">in this video</a>.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab12\" ><strong>Intersex</strong></h2>\r\nIntersex refers to people who, for a variety of different reasons, do not fall neatly into either the male or female binary sex categories. Male and female as sex categories refer to a culturally-agreed-upon collection of primary (genitalia and gonads), secondary (breasts, facial hair, etc.), and genetic (chromosomes) sex characteristics and markers.\r\n\r\nSome people know they are intersex from birth. Others may find out at puberty, when our secondary sex characteristics begin to come in. Still others may not know until well into adulthood, especially if they have an intersex variant that affects internal organs or chromosomes.\r\n\r\nNot all intersex people identify as LGBTQ+. Some people find community with LGBTQ+ people because they are intersex, some do because they have another identity that falls within the community, and others do not find it useful or aligned with their experience.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab13\" ><strong>Lesbian</strong></h2>\r\nA lesbian is someone who experiences and prefers sexual or romantic attraction to women and between women. However, a non-binary person can also consider identifying as a lesbian. Some lesbians also refer to themselves as gay. Regarding pronouns, just ask the person.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab14\" ><strong>Nonbinary</strong></h2>\r\nNonbinary, sometimes shortened to NB or enby, is an adjective describing a person who does not identify exclusively as a man or woman. Non-binary people may identify as being both a man and a woman, somewhere in between, or as falling completely outside these categories.\r\n\r\nNonbinary can also be used as an umbrella term encompassing identities such as agender, bigender, third gender, genderqueer or gender-fluid. Some might also identify as transgender, but not all non-binary people do.\r\n\r\nThere are several pronouns used in the nonbinary community. These include:\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>She, her, her, hers, and herself</li>\r\n \t<li>He, him, his, his, and himself</li>\r\n \t<li>They, them, their, theirs, and themself</li>\r\n \t<li>Ze/zie, hir, hir, hirs, and hirself</li>\r\n \t<li>Xe, xem, xyr, xyrs, and xemself</li>\r\n \t<li>Ve, ver, vis, vis, and verself</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<h2 id=\"tab15\" ><strong>Pansexual</strong></h2>\r\nPansexuality is usually defined as experiencing sexual attraction to all gender identities or being attracted to someone <em>regardless of </em>their gender identity. Its use and visibility has increased in recent decades alongside the understanding of gender as existing beyond a binary of woman and man.\r\n\r\nOften this term is used interchangeably with bisexuality, but there is a distinction between the two. Bisexuality is typically defined as attraction to more than one gender (not restricted to woman/man binary). Pansexuality is typically considered to be under the umbrella of bisexuality since it’s distinguished by an attraction to someone despite their gender.\r\n\r\nOmnisexuality is another term sometimes used by folx who wish to emphasize that gender is important to how they find someone attractive.\r\n\r\nTo learn more about being pansexual, check out these sites: <a href=\"//www.stonewall.org.uk/about-us/news/5-common-misconceptions-about-pansexuality\">Stonewall Org — Pansexual Misconceptions</a>; <a href=\"//www.them.us/story/pansexuality-101\">Them —</a><a href=\"//www.them.us/story/pansexuality-101\"> Article</a>; <a href=\"//www.verywellmind.com/what-is-pansexual-5075602\">Very Well Mind — Definition Page</a>; <a href=\"//biresource.org/\">Bisexual Resource Center</a>.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab16\" ><strong>Pronouns</strong></h2>\r\nPronouns are grammatical terms used to reference a person in place of a proper noun. A few examples are “she/her/hers,” “they/them/theirs,” and “he/hers/any. There’s no limit to how many pronouns an individual may be comfortable using. There’s also no definitive list of pronouns and many are still being created as our collective understanding of gender identity and expression evolves. Some people prefer going by their name only. Other folx may alternate between pronouns.\r\n\r\nWhether you’re meeting someone for the first time, haven’t asked in a while, or feel unsure how to address someone, it’s best just to ask! You can try to say things like, “What pronouns do you use?” or “Can you remind me what pronouns you use?” Sharing your pronouns (like in your email signatures or as part of your greetings in phone calls and meetings) is a great place to start as well.\r\n\r\nFor more resources and information, check out these sites: <a href=\"//uwm.edu/lgbtrc/support/gender-pronouns/\">University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee — Pronouns Resource Page</a>; <a href=\"//gaycenter.org/pronouns/\">The Center — Resources</a>.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab17\" ><strong>Queer & questioning</strong></h2>\r\nThe Q in the LGBTQ+ acronym refers to queer and/or questioning. Queer is another umbrella term that can include any LGBTQ+ identity. People who use this label often use it to mean they fall outside of the cultural norms of binary gender and heterosexuality. Some may also use this label when they hold more than one LGBTQ+ identity.\r\n\r\nIt has become more popular mostly among younger folks who have been reclaiming the label “queer” as it has been used as a slur in the past. Because of this, not everyone in the community feels comfortable identifying as queer. Before using this term to describe a person or group, it’s good to ask if they like to use this label or not.\r\n\r\nThe term “questioning” can apply to anyone who is questioning or exploring their gender identity, sexual orientation, or both. It often refers to youth, but it can apply to anyone, as it’s not uncommon for our identities to shift throughout our life. Someone who is questioning may be wondering for the first time if they fit into the LGBTQ+ community, or they may be exploring different identity labels or pronouns.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab18\" ><strong>Transgender</strong></h2>\r\nTransgender (sometimes shortened as “trans”) is an umbrella term describing individuals whose gender identity differs from the one assigned to them at birth. Non-binary individuals (and those who may identify otherwise outside of the gender binary) may also consider themselves as part of the transgender spectrum.\r\n\r\n<a href=\"//translifeline.org/resource/assigned-gender/\">Assigned gender </a>is the medical term used to describe the assumed gender of a newborn child based on their primary sex characteristics (genitals). One’s gender identity does not indicate how one’s gender is expressed, nor what sexual attraction an individual may or may not experience.\r\n\r\nTransgender people can experience any sexual orientation and romantic attraction (or lack thereof) and may use a variety of pronouns. As always, when you’re unsure what pronouns someone goes by, it’s best to ask. To learn more and for further resources, check out these books and sites: <a href=\"//www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/understanding-gender-identities/\">The Trevor Project Resources</a>; <a href=\"//translifeline.org/\">Trans Lifeline Resources</a>.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab19\" ><strong>Two-spirit</strong></h2>\r\nTwo-spirit is a term used by some indigenous peoples in North America and refers to a person who identifies as having both a masculine and feminine spirit. It is an umbrella term which can be used to describe sexual orientation, gender, and/or spiritual identity. If you see a “2” or “2S” in a longer version of the LGBTQ+ acronym, this is what it stands for.\r\n\r\nThe term “two-spirit” was coined by Elder Myra Laramee in 1990 as a way for Native American and First Nations peoples to refer to their experiences with non-Western and non-binary gender, sexuality, and spiritual selves. It is a translation of the Anishinaabemowin term <em>niizh manidoowag</em>, or literally “two spirits.”\r\n\r\nPeople who fall under the umbrella term “two-spirit” may use just that label or may also use other culturally-specific terminology for themselves. Not every LGBTQ+ Native American or First Nations person is two-spirit.\r\n\r\nUnlike the other terms discussed in this deck, “two-spirit” is a closed identity. This means that not everyone can use this term to describe themselves. 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Awareness of gender diversity and transgender people has increased dramatically — in health care, in the media, in the workplace, and in politics.\r\n\r\n[caption id=\"attachment_298975\" align=\"alignnone\" width=\"630\"]<img class=\"size-full wp-image-298975\" src=\"//coursofppt.com/wp-content/uploads/group-friends-adobeStock_448356089.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"630\" height=\"420\" /> ©Jacob Lund / Adobe Stock[/caption]\r\n\r\nAs more transgender people are comfortable sharing who they are, the number of Americans who say they know transgender people has gone up. In 2021, 42 percent — about 4 in 10 — Americans said they personally know someone who is transgender, according to a 2021 survey by the Pew Research Center. That's an increase of five percentage points since 2017. Also, about a quarter of Americans (26 percent) said they know someone who goes by gender-neutral pronouns, the 2021 Pew study found.\r\n<p class=\"Remember\">Until you have a chance to get to know some people who identify as transgender and hear their stories, it’s natural to be confused or to have questions or concerns.</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab1\" >What’s the difference between sex and gender?</h2>\r\nBefore digging into what the word <i>transgender</i> means, make sure you've got down the basic definitions of <i>sex</i> and <i>gender</i>. People tend to use these two terms interchangeably, but the terms sex and gender refer to different characteristics about an individual. Here’s what’s really going on.\r\n<h3>Assigned sex</h3>\r\nA person’s <i>sex</i> or<b><i> </i></b><i>assigned sex</i><b><i> </i></b>generally refers to the body’s biological make-up — including reproductive organs as well as chromosomes. Most people are assigned either <i>male</i> or <i>female</i> after a quick visual inspection by a doctor in the hospital delivery room, or even earlier through medical technology such as an ultrasound.\r\n\r\nCourts in different states have used various criteria (e.g., the ability to bear a child, XX versus XY chromosomes, and so on) by which to make an “either/or” decision about whether a person should be considered male or female.\r\n<p class=\"Remember\">Sex is really not a binary classification; it just happens to be dominated by two sexes: male and female. This is true throughout nearly all known species of life. For that reason, every attempt by courts to draw a definitive line in the sand has been faulty, as many exceptions can be demonstrated for each one.</p>\r\n\r\n<h3>Gender</h3>\r\n<i>Gender</i> refers to the set of traits and characteristics that over time have come to be assumed of (some might say imposed upon) one’s assigned sex.\r\n\r\nPretty much across the board, male-bodied people are assumed to be “boys” as children and “men” as adults. Female-bodied people are assumed to be “girls,” then “women.” From “boys don’t cry” to “that’s not very lady-like,” children are taught from an early age how they are expected to behave based on their sex, and those who misbehave usually have a price to pay.\r\n\r\nBut what is a <i>man</i>, exactly? What is a <i>woman</i>? Why is a man “supposed” to be out working while the woman stays home to care for the children? Why is an assertive man considered to be confident and compelling, while an assertive woman with the same type of personality is called all kinds of unflattering names?\r\n<p class=\"Remember\">Those assumed stereotypical characteristics about gender vary from culture to culture and from generation to generation, however. Reflecting on U.S. history, pink and red were long considered bold, passionate colors more appropriate for men (“The Redcoats are coming!”).</p>\r\nThe more “delicate and dainty” blue was recommended for women. This color rule was reflective of the color differences often found in the animal world: the males are brightly colored in order to attract mates. The females don’t have to worry so much about what they look like, since they know the males will be interested either way.\r\n\r\nThese color assignments didn’t change until 1947, when famed designer Christian Dior initiated a pink-dominated fashion reset for women returning to homemaking after working in factories during World War II. Suddenly, anything marketed to women had to be pink. Soon after, any man who dared to like pink was eschewed.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab2\" >What is gender identity?</h2>\r\nBelieve it or not, until as recently as the 1960s, being left-handed was considered shameful, awkward, and unnatural in some cultures, including much of the United States. Many left-handed school children were literally forced to write with only their right hands, regardless of which one was naturally dominant — sometimes even beaten or punished if they did not or could not comply.\r\n\r\nAs a result, left-handers suppressing their true nature often not only had atrocious penmanship, but tended to do poorly in school and otherwise failed to thrive. This forced compliance served to perpetuate the stereotype that lefties were somehow defective and needed to be made, well, “right.”\r\n\r\nThese days, most folks wouldn’t dream of punishing a child for favoring the left hand over the right. Everyone has a dominant hand. It's understood that most people are right-handed, but some are naturally left-handed. Some write with the left, but do everything else with the right. Others are ambidextrous, or comfortable using either hand for the same tasks. Science doesn’t yet completely understand exactly why this variance happens, but it does.\r\n\r\n<i>Gender</i><i> identity</i>, sometimes called <i>affirmed gender</i>,<i> </i>refers to an individual’s own psychological sense of self — who you know yourself to be. Similar to handedness, everyone has a dominant, persistent gender identity, and that identity is considered to be an immutable core psychological characteristic. It’s not a matter of preference and not something you can simply change because you want to. Just like knowing whether you are left- or right-handed, it’s hard-wired in the brain.\r\n<p class=\"TechnicalStuff\">Borrowed from organic chemistry, the Latin prefixes <i>cis</i>- (“on this side”) and <i>trans</i>- (“across from”) are used to describe which type of gender identity someone has: cisgender or transgender.</p>\r\n\r\n<h3>Cisgender</h3>\r\nAnyone whose gender identity is harmoniously aligned with the sex they were assigned at birth is considered <i>cisgender</i>. In most cases, cisgender identity is taken for granted, because the vast majority of the population enjoy the luxury of having a gender identity that fits relatively well with their assigned sex.\r\n\r\nMost people who are assigned female at birth know themselves to be women, for example, and they’re okay with that. They might not enjoy every single thing about what it means to be a woman in today’s world. (You sure can’t blame them if pantyhose is high on that list!) But overall, they’re satisfied with being women. So, for cisgender people, their gender identity is “on this side” with their assigned sex.\r\n<h3>Transgender</h3>\r\nWhen one’s gender identity is “across from” one’s assigned sex, that person is in essence<i> </i><i>transgender</i>, although they may or may not use this word to describe themselves.\r\n\r\nThe term transgender itself is used both to describe a particular type of gender identity as well as sort of a shortcut to collectively describe a whole bunch of different types of people whose genders don’t fit neatly into the M or F checkbox. Some other words you might hear are <i>transsexual</i>, <i>gender-creative</i>, <i>bigender</i>, <i>trans man</i> or <i>trans woman</i>, <i>genderqueer</i>, <i>gender-diverse,</i> <i>affirmed male</i> or <i>affirmed female</i>, <i>a woman </i>(or<i> man</i>) <i>of transsexual history</i>, <i>non-binary</i>, <i>questioning</i>, <i>agender</i>, and many others.\r\n\r\nIt’s impossible to define each of these different terms accurately. Like genes, individual people’s identities are as different as snowflakes, including the words they use to define their gender and what those words mean to them. Culture, race, ethnicity, and community traditions often influence the terms people use as well.\r\n<p class=\"Remember\">Transgender (or just simply <i>trans</i>) is currently the most commonly used term. But don’t assume that it works in every situation. It’s important to use whatever term(s) the person uses. Anything else is considered rude.</p>\r\nAlong these same lines, don’t assume that everyone who is transgender addresses the situation in the same way. Being transgender doesn’t <i>automatically</i> mean a person needs to change anything, although most trans people tend to make at least minor adjustments to ease the anguish they’re experiencing. It could be as simple as choosing a less gendered name, such as going from Mary Ann to Jordan, or from Richard to Rey.\r\n\r\nIf the individual’s level of discomfort and distress is more intense, they may pursue more comprehensive treatment, which might include cross-sex <i>hormone replacement therapy</i> (HRT) and perhaps gender-confirming surgical procedures.\r\n\r\nThese procedures are considered medically necessary — life-saving, in fact — for many people. Several federal, state, local, and corporate policies now include nondiscrimination protection for gender identity, including Medicare and the IRS.\r\n<p class=\"remember\">Only the individual can say for sure whether they are transgender, cisgender, or anything else — it’s not something you can decide for someone else, not even if you’re a doctor.</p>\r\nNor can you simply tell if someone is or is not transgender by looking at them. Because it is such an innate thing, a lot of people might not think of themselves as somehow gender “transgressive,” even when other people might think it is very obvious. But if you ask them, they might say, “Nope, I’m not trans, I’m just me!”\r\n\r\nOn the other hand, most transgender people don’t look or act any differently than the rest of the people out there, so you’d never know that their lives’ journeys had taken a few more turns and detours than most.\r\n<p class=\"TechnicalStuff\">Just to be clear, intersex and transgender are not the same thing. Intersex is a mix of physiological sex characteristics, while transgender is a conflict between a core psychological characteristic (gender) and a core physiological characteristic (sex).</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab3\" >What is gender expression?</h2>\r\n<i>Gender expression</i> is a set of visual cues and other signals intended to help others of your species determine how to interact with you. Your gender expression is how you show the world your gender identity. Gender is expressed or presented in myriad ways. The signals can include what you wear, how you sound when you talk, how long you wear your hair, and even what you call yourself or do for a living.\r\n<div class=\"imageBlock\" style=\"width: 276px;\">\r\n\r\n[caption id=\"\" align=\"alignnone\" width=\"276\"]<img src=\"//coursofppt.com/wp-content/uploads/486074.image1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"276\" height=\"295\" /> ©C. Michael Woodward[/caption]\r\n\r\n</div>\r\nSome people have a feminine gender expression, some are masculine or manly, and some are androgynous (a little of both or none of either). It all depends on what feels right to that person in that moment. Just as sex characteristics will develop differently in each person, one individual’s gender expression is going to be a little bit different than another’s.\r\n\r\nBabies are not born wearing lipstick or neckties. Nevertheless, Western society has some very rigid group-think ideas about how a person of a particular sex should look and behave. Those rules mean that a male-bodied person is supposed to consider himself a man (whatever that is), and “act like one,” too.\r\n\r\nAsk any guy who prefers a good book over the Super Bowl how many times other people have questioned his masculinity if he admitted that fact in public: “Man up, dude! What the heck’s wrong with you?”\r\n\r\nIf the eyes see a tall, broad-shouldered person with a square jaw and the ears hear a deep voice, the brain takes that input, runs its high-speed data analysis process, and returns the results: male. The mouth then automatically wants to say “Hello, sir.”\r\n\r\nBut what if that same tall, broad-shouldered person is wearing a beautiful dress, a string of pearls, lipstick, and a tasteful dash of blush? How should you respond?\r\n<p class=\"Remember\">Well, if you were paying attention a moment ago, you know that gender expression helps you show the world who you are. So if in your culture women often wear beautiful dresses, pearls, and makeup, and this person is wearing all those things and introduces herself as Susan, you should say “Hello, ma’am. Nice to meet you, Susan.”</p>\r\nSusan is showing you (expressing) that she’s a woman with the things she can control (feminine attire, feminine name) and hoping you can ignore or at least not include those things she can’t so easily control (her height, for example). Thus, it’s appropriate and respectful to refer to her with feminine pronouns and use the name she provided when she introduced herself.","description":"Terms such as <i>transgender</i> and <i>gender identity</i> have been in the news a lot in recent years. Awareness of gender diversity and transgender people has increased dramatically — in health care, in the media, in the workplace, and in politics.\r\n\r\n[caption id=\"attachment_298975\" align=\"alignnone\" width=\"630\"]<img class=\"size-full wp-image-298975\" src=\"//coursofppt.com/wp-content/uploads/group-friends-adobeStock_448356089.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"630\" height=\"420\" /> ©Jacob Lund / Adobe Stock[/caption]\r\n\r\nAs more transgender people are comfortable sharing who they are, the number of Americans who say they know transgender people has gone up. In 2021, 42 percent — about 4 in 10 — Americans said they personally know someone who is transgender, according to a 2021 survey by the Pew Research Center. That's an increase of five percentage points since 2017. Also, about a quarter of Americans (26 percent) said they know someone who goes by gender-neutral pronouns, the 2021 Pew study found.\r\n<p class=\"Remember\">Until you have a chance to get to know some people who identify as transgender and hear their stories, it’s natural to be confused or to have questions or concerns.</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab1\" >What’s the difference between sex and gender?</h2>\r\nBefore digging into what the word <i>transgender</i> means, make sure you've got down the basic definitions of <i>sex</i> and <i>gender</i>. People tend to use these two terms interchangeably, but the terms sex and gender refer to different characteristics about an individual. Here’s what’s really going on.\r\n<h3>Assigned sex</h3>\r\nA person’s <i>sex</i> or<b><i> </i></b><i>assigned sex</i><b><i> </i></b>generally refers to the body’s biological make-up — including reproductive organs as well as chromosomes. Most people are assigned either <i>male</i> or <i>female</i> after a quick visual inspection by a doctor in the hospital delivery room, or even earlier through medical technology such as an ultrasound.\r\n\r\nCourts in different states have used various criteria (e.g., the ability to bear a child, XX versus XY chromosomes, and so on) by which to make an “either/or” decision about whether a person should be considered male or female.\r\n<p class=\"Remember\">Sex is really not a binary classification; it just happens to be dominated by two sexes: male and female. This is true throughout nearly all known species of life. For that reason, every attempt by courts to draw a definitive line in the sand has been faulty, as many exceptions can be demonstrated for each one.</p>\r\n\r\n<h3>Gender</h3>\r\n<i>Gender</i> refers to the set of traits and characteristics that over time have come to be assumed of (some might say imposed upon) one’s assigned sex.\r\n\r\nPretty much across the board, male-bodied people are assumed to be “boys” as children and “men” as adults. Female-bodied people are assumed to be “girls,” then “women.” From “boys don’t cry” to “that’s not very lady-like,” children are taught from an early age how they are expected to behave based on their sex, and those who misbehave usually have a price to pay.\r\n\r\nBut what is a <i>man</i>, exactly? What is a <i>woman</i>? Why is a man “supposed” to be out working while the woman stays home to care for the children? Why is an assertive man considered to be confident and compelling, while an assertive woman with the same type of personality is called all kinds of unflattering names?\r\n<p class=\"Remember\">Those assumed stereotypical characteristics about gender vary from culture to culture and from generation to generation, however. Reflecting on U.S. history, pink and red were long considered bold, passionate colors more appropriate for men (“The Redcoats are coming!”).</p>\r\nThe more “delicate and dainty” blue was recommended for women. This color rule was reflective of the color differences often found in the animal world: the males are brightly colored in order to attract mates. The females don’t have to worry so much about what they look like, since they know the males will be interested either way.\r\n\r\nThese color assignments didn’t change until 1947, when famed designer Christian Dior initiated a pink-dominated fashion reset for women returning to homemaking after working in factories during World War II. Suddenly, anything marketed to women had to be pink. Soon after, any man who dared to like pink was eschewed.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab2\" >What is gender identity?</h2>\r\nBelieve it or not, until as recently as the 1960s, being left-handed was considered shameful, awkward, and unnatural in some cultures, including much of the United States. Many left-handed school children were literally forced to write with only their right hands, regardless of which one was naturally dominant — sometimes even beaten or punished if they did not or could not comply.\r\n\r\nAs a result, left-handers suppressing their true nature often not only had atrocious penmanship, but tended to do poorly in school and otherwise failed to thrive. This forced compliance served to perpetuate the stereotype that lefties were somehow defective and needed to be made, well, “right.”\r\n\r\nThese days, most folks wouldn’t dream of punishing a child for favoring the left hand over the right. Everyone has a dominant hand. It's understood that most people are right-handed, but some are naturally left-handed. Some write with the left, but do everything else with the right. Others are ambidextrous, or comfortable using either hand for the same tasks. Science doesn’t yet completely understand exactly why this variance happens, but it does.\r\n\r\n<i>Gender</i><i> identity</i>, sometimes called <i>affirmed gender</i>,<i> </i>refers to an individual’s own psychological sense of self — who you know yourself to be. Similar to handedness, everyone has a dominant, persistent gender identity, and that identity is considered to be an immutable core psychological characteristic. It’s not a matter of preference and not something you can simply change because you want to. Just like knowing whether you are left- or right-handed, it’s hard-wired in the brain.\r\n<p class=\"TechnicalStuff\">Borrowed from organic chemistry, the Latin prefixes <i>cis</i>- (“on this side”) and <i>trans</i>- (“across from”) are used to describe which type of gender identity someone has: cisgender or transgender.</p>\r\n\r\n<h3>Cisgender</h3>\r\nAnyone whose gender identity is harmoniously aligned with the sex they were assigned at birth is considered <i>cisgender</i>. In most cases, cisgender identity is taken for granted, because the vast majority of the population enjoy the luxury of having a gender identity that fits relatively well with their assigned sex.\r\n\r\nMost people who are assigned female at birth know themselves to be women, for example, and they’re okay with that. They might not enjoy every single thing about what it means to be a woman in today’s world. (You sure can’t blame them if pantyhose is high on that list!) But overall, they’re satisfied with being women. So, for cisgender people, their gender identity is “on this side” with their assigned sex.\r\n<h3>Transgender</h3>\r\nWhen one’s gender identity is “across from” one’s assigned sex, that person is in essence<i> </i><i>transgender</i>, although they may or may not use this word to describe themselves.\r\n\r\nThe term transgender itself is used both to describe a particular type of gender identity as well as sort of a shortcut to collectively describe a whole bunch of different types of people whose genders don’t fit neatly into the M or F checkbox. Some other words you might hear are <i>transsexual</i>, <i>gender-creative</i>, <i>bigender</i>, <i>trans man</i> or <i>trans woman</i>, <i>genderqueer</i>, <i>gender-diverse,</i> <i>affirmed male</i> or <i>affirmed female</i>, <i>a woman </i>(or<i> man</i>) <i>of transsexual history</i>, <i>non-binary</i>, <i>questioning</i>, <i>agender</i>, and many others.\r\n\r\nIt’s impossible to define each of these different terms accurately. Like genes, individual people’s identities are as different as snowflakes, including the words they use to define their gender and what those words mean to them. Culture, race, ethnicity, and community traditions often influence the terms people use as well.\r\n<p class=\"Remember\">Transgender (or just simply <i>trans</i>) is currently the most commonly used term. But don’t assume that it works in every situation. It’s important to use whatever term(s) the person uses. Anything else is considered rude.</p>\r\nAlong these same lines, don’t assume that everyone who is transgender addresses the situation in the same way. Being transgender doesn’t <i>automatically</i> mean a person needs to change anything, although most trans people tend to make at least minor adjustments to ease the anguish they’re experiencing. It could be as simple as choosing a less gendered name, such as going from Mary Ann to Jordan, or from Richard to Rey.\r\n\r\nIf the individual’s level of discomfort and distress is more intense, they may pursue more comprehensive treatment, which might include cross-sex <i>hormone replacement therapy</i> (HRT) and perhaps gender-confirming surgical procedures.\r\n\r\nThese procedures are considered medically necessary — life-saving, in fact — for many people. Several federal, state, local, and corporate policies now include nondiscrimination protection for gender identity, including Medicare and the IRS.\r\n<p class=\"remember\">Only the individual can say for sure whether they are transgender, cisgender, or anything else — it’s not something you can decide for someone else, not even if you’re a doctor.</p>\r\nNor can you simply tell if someone is or is not transgender by looking at them. Because it is such an innate thing, a lot of people might not think of themselves as somehow gender “transgressive,” even when other people might think it is very obvious. But if you ask them, they might say, “Nope, I’m not trans, I’m just me!”\r\n\r\nOn the other hand, most transgender people don’t look or act any differently than the rest of the people out there, so you’d never know that their lives’ journeys had taken a few more turns and detours than most.\r\n<p class=\"TechnicalStuff\">Just to be clear, intersex and transgender are not the same thing. Intersex is a mix of physiological sex characteristics, while transgender is a conflict between a core psychological characteristic (gender) and a core physiological characteristic (sex).</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab3\" >What is gender expression?</h2>\r\n<i>Gender expression</i> is a set of visual cues and other signals intended to help others of your species determine how to interact with you. Your gender expression is how you show the world your gender identity. Gender is expressed or presented in myriad ways. The signals can include what you wear, how you sound when you talk, how long you wear your hair, and even what you call yourself or do for a living.\r\n<div class=\"imageBlock\" style=\"width: 276px;\">\r\n\r\n[caption id=\"\" align=\"alignnone\" width=\"276\"]<img src=\"//coursofppt.com/wp-content/uploads/486074.image1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"276\" height=\"295\" /> ©C. Michael Woodward[/caption]\r\n\r\n</div>\r\nSome people have a feminine gender expression, some are masculine or manly, and some are androgynous (a little of both or none of either). It all depends on what feels right to that person in that moment. Just as sex characteristics will develop differently in each person, one individual’s gender expression is going to be a little bit different than another’s.\r\n\r\nBabies are not born wearing lipstick or neckties. Nevertheless, Western society has some very rigid group-think ideas about how a person of a particular sex should look and behave. Those rules mean that a male-bodied person is supposed to consider himself a man (whatever that is), and “act like one,” too.\r\n\r\nAsk any guy who prefers a good book over the Super Bowl how many times other people have questioned his masculinity if he admitted that fact in public: “Man up, dude! What the heck’s wrong with you?”\r\n\r\nIf the eyes see a tall, broad-shouldered person with a square jaw and the ears hear a deep voice, the brain takes that input, runs its high-speed data analysis process, and returns the results: male. The mouth then automatically wants to say “Hello, sir.”\r\n\r\nBut what if that same tall, broad-shouldered person is wearing a beautiful dress, a string of pearls, lipstick, and a tasteful dash of blush? How should you respond?\r\n<p class=\"Remember\">Well, if you were paying attention a moment ago, you know that gender expression helps you show the world who you are. So if in your culture women often wear beautiful dresses, pearls, and makeup, and this person is wearing all those things and introduces herself as Susan, you should say “Hello, ma’am. Nice to meet you, Susan.”</p>\r\nSusan is showing you (expressing) that she’s a woman with the things she can control (feminine attire, feminine name) and hoping you can ignore or at least not include those things she can’t so easily control (her height, for example). Thus, it’s appropriate and respectful to refer to her with feminine pronouns and use the name she provided when she introduced herself.","blurb":"","authors":[{"authorId":9098,"name":"C. Michael Woodward","slug":"c-michael-woodward","description":"<strong>C. Michael Woodward</strong>, MPH, is a speaker, lecturer, corporate trainer, peer counselor, and coach. He has enlightened thousands of people across the country on matters of sexual orientation and gender identity and expression. His essay, “Manning Up,” became the title piece for the critically acclaimed anthology <em>Manning Up: Transsexual Men on Finding Brotherhood, Family, and Themselves</em> (Transgress Press, 2014).\r\n\r\nHe provides policy and best practices consulting, inclusive strategic planning services, and sexual orientation and gender identity and expression education to employers, health care providers, law enforcement, policy makers, educators, and others.\r\n\r\nA native of Indiana, Michael earned a Bachelor of Science degree in Public and Corporate Communication from Butler University in 1986. 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Although there are a lot more information bites in this Cheat Sheet, let&#8217;s start with some of the basics: You need to prepare yourself and your partner; if you are with a new lover, discover some great talking points to ease the awkwardness; use foreplay to set the mood throughout the day; and don&#8217;t forget about afterplay.</p>\n<div class=\"figure-container\"><figure id=\"attachment_262919\" aria-labelledby=\"figcaption_attachment_262919\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\" style=\"width: 545px\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-full wp-image-262919\" src=\"//coursofppt.com/wp-content/uploads/sex-great-sex.jpg\" alt=\"Feet entwined beneath sheets\" width=\"535\" height=\"357\" /><figcaption id=\"figcaption_attachment_262919\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">©AimPix/Shutterstock.com</figcaption></figure></div><div class=\"clearfix\"></div>\n<h2>Prepare yourself for great sex</h2>\n<p>Sex is easy, but great sex takes some preparation. Here are some hints of what you can do to get you and your partner ready:</p>\n<ul>\n<li>Remove any nervousness about an unplanned pregnancy by having contraceptives handy.</li>\n<li>Put on your sexiest underwear, or else don’t wear any.</li>\n<li>Use fantasy to push away the worries of the day.</li>\n<li>Change the sheets (or the tablecloth).</li>\n<li>Put your last article of clothing over the clock.</li>\n<li>Remember that compliments are an important part of foreplay.</li>\n</ul>\n<h2>Talking points for new lovers</h2>\n<p>The first time the two of you crawl into the sheets or slip into the back seat will be a little awkward. Discussing the following topics ahead of time will make it easier.</p>\n<ul>\n<li>Make sure you both know how far you’re willing to go</li>\n<li>STDs aren’t sexy, so clear the air on this subject ahead of time.</li>\n<li>Women with problems climaxing should tell their partners rather than fake it.</li>\n<li>Premature ejaculation will make itself known, so talk about it ahead of time.</li>\n<li>If you’re a screamer, let your partner know. If talking distracts you, speak up.</li>\n</ul>\n<h2>Set the mood throughout the day</h2>\n<p>Most couples make love at night, but matters will go much better if the daylight hours are used to best advantage. Try these tips and see what happens!</p>\n<ul>\n<li>Sneak a suggestive note into her purse or his pocket before work, or send a text using code that only he or she will understand.</li>\n<li>Subtly show him that you’re wearing your sexiest lingerie under your business suit.</li>\n<li>Drop in at her office with a picnic lunch complete with strawberries and cream.</li>\n<li>Send her a dozen roses, one at a time.</li>\n</ul>\n<h2>Drive your partner wild</h2>\n<p>There’s sex, and then there’s SEX! Following are some great sex tips on how to ramp up those three little letters:</p>\n<ul>\n<li>Read erotic literature to each other</li>\n<li>Take a bath or shower together.</li>\n<li>Take a tour of your partner’s body to learn what parts are most sensitive.</li>\n<li>Role play, starting outside the bedroom — maybe even outside your home.</li>\n<li>Take turns initiating sex and actively engage in using different positions.</li>\n<li>Give each other sensual massages.</li>\n</ul>\n<h2>Make the most of afterplay</h2>\n<p>Most lovers seem to know about foreplay, but just like a great movie, the better the ending, the more stars you’ll give it.</p>\n<ul>\n<li>Hold your partner closely after she has her orgasm.</li>\n<li>Tell her how much you love her.</li>\n<li>Kiss her very gently on the cheek</li>\n<li>Rub her neck.</li>\n<li>Allow her to savor the moment for at least two minutes.</li>\n<li>Recreate afterplay moments, such as a special caress, at other times.</li>\n</ul>\n<h2>Maximize your masturbation exhilaration</h2>\n<p>We may never know whether Hans Solo practiced this art form on the Millennium Falcon, but here’s some advice for those stuck here on Earth.</p>\n<ul>\n<li>To ensure maximum enjoyment, make sure you have complete privacy.</li>\n<li>Try to use a variety of techniques so that masturbation doesn’t become routine.</li>\n<li>Mechanical devices can give extra sensations, but don’t overuse them.</li>\n<li>While porn can be helpful, your imagination can also offer powerful stimuli.</li>\n<li>Partners watching each other masturbate can be very erotic.</li>\n<li>If you always rush when you masturbate, it may affect your skills at intercourse.</li>\n</ul>\n"},{"title":"What a woman should know about a man’s penis","thumb":null,"image":null,"content":"<p>A man’s equipment may be more obvious to the world than a woman’s, and yet there are many mysteries that a lover must unravel in order to best please the man attached to it. Consider the following:</p>\n<ul>\n<li>A man’s subconscious can have more control over his penis than he does.</li>\n<li>In most men, the underside of the head of the penis is the most sensitive part.</li>\n<li>A penis is very sensitive — emotionally, that is — and doesn’t take criticism well.</li>\n<li>The drop of liquid that appears at the tip of the erect penis before ejaculation may contain sperm.</li>\n<li>Every penis has a limit to how much arousal it can take before ejaculating.</li>\n</ul>\n"},{"title":"What a man should know about a woman’s vulva","thumb":null,"image":null,"content":"<p>A woman’s private parts don’t come with a set of instructions, so every woman needs to write her own to make sure her lover knows what she likes. Here are a few important points to keep in mind:</p>\n<ul>\n<li>Lubrication coming from the vagina is a sign of sexual arousal.</li>\n<li>In some women, an erect clitoris may be too sensitive for direct stimulation.</li>\n<li>Some vulvas like to be called sexy names, while others prefer more respect.</li>\n<li>Vulvas come in a wide variety of appearances, though all accept compliments.</li>\n<li>Vulvas have a special place in their hearts for warm, moist tongues.</li>\n</ul>\n"},{"title":"How to use a condom and condom etiquette","thumb":null,"image":null,"content":"<p>Condoms can be a very effective method of preventing unintended pregnancies and keeping away STDs — but only if they’re used correctly.</p>\n<ul>\n<li>Keep the condom close at hand to avoid breaking the mood.</li>\n<li>Make the roll-out process a team effort, integrating it into foreplay.</li>\n<li>When you’re putting it on, make sure to leave a little room at the end.</li>\n<li>If placement causes some flaccidity, give him a manual boost.</li>\n<li>Pulling out can be risky unless someone keeps a firm grip on matters.</li>\n<li>If the bell rings announcing round two, always use a new condom.</li>\n</ul>\n"}],"videoInfo":{"videoId":null,"name":null,"accountId":null,"playerId":null,"thumbnailUrl":null,"description":null,"uploadDate":null}},"sponsorship":{"sponsorshipPage":false,"backgroundImage":{"src":null,"width":0,"height":0},"brandingLine":"","brandingLink":"","brandingLogo":{"src":null,"width":0,"height":0},"sponsorAd":"","sponsorEbookTitle":"","sponsorEbookLink":"","sponsorEbookImage":{"src":null,"width":0,"height":0}},"primaryLearningPath":"Explore","lifeExpectancy":"Two years","lifeExpectancySetFrom":"2023-01-19T00:00:00+00:00","dummiesForKids":"no","sponsoredContent":"no","adInfo":"","adPairKey":[]},"status":"publish","visibility":"public","articleId":207804},{"headers":{"creationTime":"2020-08-18T21:50:10+00:00","modifiedTime":"2022-12-13T14:56:15+00:00","timestamp":"2023-09-14T18:18:53+00:00"},"data":{"breadcrumbs":[{"name":"Body, Mind, & Spirit","_links":{"self":"//dummies-api.coursofppt.com/v2/categories/34038"},"slug":"body-mind-spirit","categoryId":34038},{"name":"Relationships & Family","_links":{"self":"//dummies-api.coursofppt.com/v2/categories/34189"},"slug":"relationships-family","categoryId":34189},{"name":"Sex & Gender","_links":{"self":"//dummies-api.coursofppt.com/v2/categories/34199"},"slug":"sex-gender","categoryId":34199}],"title":"Dr. Ruth's 10 Tips for Truly Great Lovers","strippedTitle":"dr. ruth's 10 tips for truly great lovers","slug":"dr-ruths-10-tips-for-truly-great-lovers","canonicalUrl":"","快速搜数据库索游戏引挚推广":{"metaDescription":"Dr. Ruth provides ten tips on how to be a great lover, from becoming a good kisser to protecting yourself and your partner.","noIndex":0,"noFollow":0},"content":"Anybody can teach you how to make love, but I, Dr. Ruth, want you how to become a great lover. I want you to have <a href=\"//coursofppt.com/relationships/sex/sex-for-dummies-cheat-sheet/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>terrrrific</em> sex</a>, and to do that you have to find out how to roll your Rs and heed the following tips. Start by learning how to be a good kisser.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab1\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709989\"></a><a name=\"_Toc5709996\"></a>Be a good kisser</h2>\r\nThe sensations caused by kissing can feel so good, so intense, that some people can kiss each other for hours. Many people have a pleasure zone—centered on oral activity.\r\nKissing, by the way, is a gentle art. Oh, you have moments when passions run high, and you may even feel like nibbling on each other, but for the most part, being too rough with your kisses can spoil the moment rather than enhance it. Also, although many people enjoy French kissing (that is, deep-mouth kissing), some do not. You shouldn’t try to force your way into these people’s mouths because doing so only breaks the mood.\r\n<p class=\"article-tips remember\">Kissing is an important part of sex and one that you shouldn’t neglect, especially because you can do it almost anytime and anywhere. So go for it!</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab2\" >Don’t make love on your first date</h2>\r\nSex feels great, doesn’t it? But sex isn’t a toy. Sex is a serious act to be shared by responsible adults. A great lover integrates sex into an overall relationship and never has sex with someone he or she barely knows.\r\n\r\nGiving into the temptation of having sex before you really know each other can only lead to problems, such as catching a sexually transmitted disease. But even if you do escape with your health intact, you won’t be having great sex.\r\n\r\nIf you wait until you’ve developed a relationship with someone, if you devote your energies to finding out enough about that someone so you grow to admire, respect, and love the person, then — and only then — can you have great sex.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab3\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709990\"></a>Set the mood as far in advance as possible</h2>\r\nA common myth says that great sex has to be spontaneous sex, but in most cases, the reverse of that is true. Now, I’m not saying that spontaneous sex can’t be great, but rarely do two people hit their peak sexual mood at just the same time without some planning.\r\n\r\nOne reason is that women require a longer time to get aroused. (Guys, this is a proven medical fact, not a whim.) So the sooner you set the mood for lovemaking, the more aroused she can become. Don’t be in such a rush. The more planning and preparation you invest in making the evening (or morning or afternoon) as romantic as possible, the better the sex will be.\r\n\r\nGive your full attention to your partner the moment you walk through the door, not just before you get into bed. Spend time caressing and massaging the rest of her body before reaching for her clitoris. And afterward, don’t feel as if you have to go right to sleep or head back to your apartment as soon as you’ve had your orgasm.\r\n\r\nLadies, if you know that you want to have sex with him, don’t be coy about it. Let him know that the answer will be yes as soon as you know it yourself. That way he can feel free to give you the best foreplay he can without worrying about whether he’s going to have his advances rejected.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab4\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709991\"></a>Find out what your partner needs</h2>\r\nSex isn’t a selfish act. Just because no one else can feel your orgasm doesn’t mean that they can’t share in your pleasure, or you in theirs. If you want to have the strongest orgasms — the kind that make your heart beat wildly, your breath grow short, and your toes curl — then you have to work together and give as much of yourselves to each other as you can.\r\n\r\nTo be more giving, you have to know what the other person needs: more foreplay, a certain touch around the anus, the sensations of oral sex, maybe a thousand little kisses. Find out how to please your partner by asking directly, trying out variations, and seeing how they are received; and if your partner does the same, your team can score great sex every time.\r\n<p class=\"article-tips tip\">To be the best lover you can be, do ask and do tell each other what you want. You’ve taken your clothes off, so what’s the big deal about stripping away some of that shell still covering your psyche? Sex isn’t a private act; it’s an act of sharing — and the more you share, the more there will be to share.</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab5\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709992\"></a>Protect yourself and your partner</h2>\r\nSex has never been risk free. Having an unintended pregnancy carries serious consequences. And in this era of HIV and widespread other STDs, the risks have multiplied tremendously.\r\n\r\nIf you have the misguided notion that protecting yourself takes away from the pleasure of sex, then you’ve been missing out on truly great sex.\r\n\r\nThe most important sex organ isn’t below your belt, but between your ears. I’m talking about your brain. If you’re worried about an unintended pregnancy or whether you’ll catch some disease, you won’t fully enjoy yourself. These types of worries can keep some men from having an erection and some women from having an orgasm, and they can lessen the pleasure for anyone.\r\n\r\nSafer sex isn’t only less dangerous, it’s also more enjoyable. So if you want to be the best lover you can be, always practice safer sex.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab6\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709993\"></a>Don’t fall into a rut</h2>\r\nThe first 10, 20, or maybe even 100 times you have sex with someone, you’ll experience a certain excitement that comes from the newness of it all. But after a time, that newness begins to wear off.\r\n\r\nFor some people, familiarity may be comforting, but for others, the sameness makes sex begin to wear thin. Instead of anticipating a certain caress, they begin to dread it. And so, instead of wanting to have sex, they start avoiding it, which can spell not only the end of a couple’s sex life, but the end of their entire relationship.\r\n\r\nEven if you find yourself going back to your old ways, because they do bring you a lot of pleasure, force yourself to try something new once in a while: a different sexual position, making love at a different time of day, having sex someplace you’ve never done it before, doing it fast when you usually take your time, making a point of prolonging the act as long as you can possibly stand it. If you try some new things, you may appreciate the old ways even more. And perhaps you’ll find some new ways of having sex that will make sex better than ever.\r\n<p class=\"article-tips tip\">Make a point of initiating these changes together. Sometimes surprises are nice, and sometimes they can shock the other person into losing the desire for sex altogether. Talk ahead of time about the different ideas that you may want to try, and have those discussions outside of the bedroom. If you need help coming up with new ideas, look at a book together, or watch a movie, and then talk over which of the new positions that you just discovered may be fun to try. Never put pressure on each other to do something that the other person really doesn’t want to do, but also don’t be so quick to say no.</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab7\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709994\"></a>Fix the potholes of love</h2>\r\nNobody is born a perfect lover. Everybody needs to practice and work at being the best lover they can become ― even you.\r\n\r\nWhatever problems you may have, be they major ones that keep you from enjoying sex altogether or minor ones that prevent you from reaching your peak sexual performance, don’t ignore them, don’t expect them to go away by themselves, and don’t spend your whole life suffering needlessly. In most cases, help is available.\r\n\r\nFor some problems, you can find the answer in a book and work it out by yourself or with your partner’s help. If that approach doesn’t solve the problem, make an appointment to see a specialist. And don’t dillydally. Do it today.\r\n\r\nWhen it comes to most physical problems, be it a toothache or the need for new eyeglasses, you don’t hesitate to go for help. But if the issue is sexual, you become too embarrassed to talk about it. But take it from me, we sex therapists have heard it all. Sex is what we talk about all day long, and we won’t think you’re strange because you have a sexual problem.\r\n\r\nAnd if you’re worried that going to a sex therapist will bleed you dry, the techniques we use are short term. Sometimes even only one or two sessions can work wonders and would be well worth the investment.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab8\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709995\"></a>Use your sense of touch</h2>\r\nResearchers have done experiments in which they’ve left baby monkeys alone in a cage without any other monkeys, and the baby monkeys soon went crazy. Just giving those monkeys a soft cloth doll that they could cuddle up to was sometimes enough to get them through this solitary confinement. You’re not a monkey, but you and your partner do have the same need to be touched.\r\n\r\nPart of that touching should take place while you’re having sex. Remember, though, that the art of arousing your partner through foreplay doesn’t mean just touching the genitals. You should pay attention to every square inch of your lover. Touch her hair, stroke his back, caress her legs, rub his feet. You can both enjoy the tactile sensations.\r\n\r\nBut this touching has to be a continuous process. You have to touch each other every day, several times a day, without any thought to having sex. You have to hug each other. Hold each other’s hands. Rub each other’s shoulders. Wash each other. All of that touching will bring you closer, so when the time comes to actually engage in sex, the experience will be heightened for both of you.\r\n<p class=\"article-tips tip\">Don’t limit this touching to your hands. Play footsie and feel how sensitive your feet can be. Lie on top of one another and feel your lover with your whole body. Put your cheeks together — both sets! Don’t be afraid to explore.</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab9\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709997\"></a>Satisfy your partner even if you don’t feel like sex</h2>\r\nEach person has a different sexual appetite, so no couple is perfectly matched. One person always wants more sex than the other. And as the years go by, those roles may even switch, and then switch back again.\r\n\r\nWhat can you do about this? Help each other out, that’s what. You’re supposed to be lovers, so just because you aren’t in the mood for an orgasm doesn’t mean that you can’t help your partner reach sexual satisfaction. No law says that both of you have to have an orgasm every time.\r\n\r\nNow, some women “fake it.” But you don’t need to fake it. You can very simply, out of love for your partner, help him or her have an orgasm in whichever way suits you best. If you’re a woman, and you want to just lie back, that’s fine. If you’re a man, you can use your finger, or your tongue, or a vibrator.\r\n<p class=\"article-tips tip\">The point is, don’t force your partner to be sexually frustrated on a regular basis just because your sexual appetites are different. Remember, the Golden Rule applies to sex just as much as to every other aspect of life.</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab10\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709998\"></a>Adjust to changes caused by aging</h2>\r\nIf you put on some weight, do you go around with your pants unbuttoned or do you buy a new pair? If you’ve reached the limit of how far your arms can hold the newspaper, do you stop reading or get reading glasses?\r\n\r\nAs the years go by, your body changes, and some of those changes can affect the way you have sex. You can refuse to adapt; you may say, “If I can’t have sex the way I used to, I won’t have it at all.” But that’s just as ridiculous as wearing your pants around your knees. You can continue to have good sex, even great sex, up into your 90s, but you’ll have to make some changes in your sex life.\r\n\r\nAs they grow older, men lose their ability to have <em>psychogenic erections,</em> which means you’ll no longer have erections just by thinking about something sexy, and instead will need physical stimulation. But is asking your wife to fondle your penis really that bad? Instead of being ashamed, let yourself get carried away by it, learn to enjoy it, and work it into being a pleasant part of foreplay.\r\n\r\nPost-menopausal women no longer lubricate the way they used to, and this problem can cause intercourse to become painful for them. This lack of lubrication is no calamity, however, because every drugstore sells very good products that can take the place of your natural lubricants and make sex just as enjoyable as it was before menopause.\r\n\r\nNo matter how well the years treat you, your body will undergo changes. But instead of letting those changes negatively impact your sex life, find out how to adapt to them and make sure that you continue to enjoy great sex your whole life through.","description":"Anybody can teach you how to make love, but I, Dr. Ruth, want you how to become a great lover. I want you to have <a href=\"//coursofppt.com/relationships/sex/sex-for-dummies-cheat-sheet/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>terrrrific</em> sex</a>, and to do that you have to find out how to roll your Rs and heed the following tips. Start by learning how to be a good kisser.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab1\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709989\"></a><a name=\"_Toc5709996\"></a>Be a good kisser</h2>\r\nThe sensations caused by kissing can feel so good, so intense, that some people can kiss each other for hours. Many people have a pleasure zone—centered on oral activity.\r\nKissing, by the way, is a gentle art. Oh, you have moments when passions run high, and you may even feel like nibbling on each other, but for the most part, being too rough with your kisses can spoil the moment rather than enhance it. Also, although many people enjoy French kissing (that is, deep-mouth kissing), some do not. You shouldn’t try to force your way into these people’s mouths because doing so only breaks the mood.\r\n<p class=\"article-tips remember\">Kissing is an important part of sex and one that you shouldn’t neglect, especially because you can do it almost anytime and anywhere. So go for it!</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab2\" >Don’t make love on your first date</h2>\r\nSex feels great, doesn’t it? But sex isn’t a toy. Sex is a serious act to be shared by responsible adults. A great lover integrates sex into an overall relationship and never has sex with someone he or she barely knows.\r\n\r\nGiving into the temptation of having sex before you really know each other can only lead to problems, such as catching a sexually transmitted disease. But even if you do escape with your health intact, you won’t be having great sex.\r\n\r\nIf you wait until you’ve developed a relationship with someone, if you devote your energies to finding out enough about that someone so you grow to admire, respect, and love the person, then — and only then — can you have great sex.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab3\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709990\"></a>Set the mood as far in advance as possible</h2>\r\nA common myth says that great sex has to be spontaneous sex, but in most cases, the reverse of that is true. Now, I’m not saying that spontaneous sex can’t be great, but rarely do two people hit their peak sexual mood at just the same time without some planning.\r\n\r\nOne reason is that women require a longer time to get aroused. (Guys, this is a proven medical fact, not a whim.) So the sooner you set the mood for lovemaking, the more aroused she can become. Don’t be in such a rush. The more planning and preparation you invest in making the evening (or morning or afternoon) as romantic as possible, the better the sex will be.\r\n\r\nGive your full attention to your partner the moment you walk through the door, not just before you get into bed. Spend time caressing and massaging the rest of her body before reaching for her clitoris. And afterward, don’t feel as if you have to go right to sleep or head back to your apartment as soon as you’ve had your orgasm.\r\n\r\nLadies, if you know that you want to have sex with him, don’t be coy about it. Let him know that the answer will be yes as soon as you know it yourself. That way he can feel free to give you the best foreplay he can without worrying about whether he’s going to have his advances rejected.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab4\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709991\"></a>Find out what your partner needs</h2>\r\nSex isn’t a selfish act. Just because no one else can feel your orgasm doesn’t mean that they can’t share in your pleasure, or you in theirs. If you want to have the strongest orgasms — the kind that make your heart beat wildly, your breath grow short, and your toes curl — then you have to work together and give as much of yourselves to each other as you can.\r\n\r\nTo be more giving, you have to know what the other person needs: more foreplay, a certain touch around the anus, the sensations of oral sex, maybe a thousand little kisses. Find out how to please your partner by asking directly, trying out variations, and seeing how they are received; and if your partner does the same, your team can score great sex every time.\r\n<p class=\"article-tips tip\">To be the best lover you can be, do ask and do tell each other what you want. You’ve taken your clothes off, so what’s the big deal about stripping away some of that shell still covering your psyche? Sex isn’t a private act; it’s an act of sharing — and the more you share, the more there will be to share.</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab5\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709992\"></a>Protect yourself and your partner</h2>\r\nSex has never been risk free. Having an unintended pregnancy carries serious consequences. And in this era of HIV and widespread other STDs, the risks have multiplied tremendously.\r\n\r\nIf you have the misguided notion that protecting yourself takes away from the pleasure of sex, then you’ve been missing out on truly great sex.\r\n\r\nThe most important sex organ isn’t below your belt, but between your ears. I’m talking about your brain. If you’re worried about an unintended pregnancy or whether you’ll catch some disease, you won’t fully enjoy yourself. These types of worries can keep some men from having an erection and some women from having an orgasm, and they can lessen the pleasure for anyone.\r\n\r\nSafer sex isn’t only less dangerous, it’s also more enjoyable. So if you want to be the best lover you can be, always practice safer sex.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab6\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709993\"></a>Don’t fall into a rut</h2>\r\nThe first 10, 20, or maybe even 100 times you have sex with someone, you’ll experience a certain excitement that comes from the newness of it all. But after a time, that newness begins to wear off.\r\n\r\nFor some people, familiarity may be comforting, but for others, the sameness makes sex begin to wear thin. Instead of anticipating a certain caress, they begin to dread it. And so, instead of wanting to have sex, they start avoiding it, which can spell not only the end of a couple’s sex life, but the end of their entire relationship.\r\n\r\nEven if you find yourself going back to your old ways, because they do bring you a lot of pleasure, force yourself to try something new once in a while: a different sexual position, making love at a different time of day, having sex someplace you’ve never done it before, doing it fast when you usually take your time, making a point of prolonging the act as long as you can possibly stand it. If you try some new things, you may appreciate the old ways even more. And perhaps you’ll find some new ways of having sex that will make sex better than ever.\r\n<p class=\"article-tips tip\">Make a point of initiating these changes together. Sometimes surprises are nice, and sometimes they can shock the other person into losing the desire for sex altogether. Talk ahead of time about the different ideas that you may want to try, and have those discussions outside of the bedroom. If you need help coming up with new ideas, look at a book together, or watch a movie, and then talk over which of the new positions that you just discovered may be fun to try. Never put pressure on each other to do something that the other person really doesn’t want to do, but also don’t be so quick to say no.</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab7\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709994\"></a>Fix the potholes of love</h2>\r\nNobody is born a perfect lover. Everybody needs to practice and work at being the best lover they can become ― even you.\r\n\r\nWhatever problems you may have, be they major ones that keep you from enjoying sex altogether or minor ones that prevent you from reaching your peak sexual performance, don’t ignore them, don’t expect them to go away by themselves, and don’t spend your whole life suffering needlessly. In most cases, help is available.\r\n\r\nFor some problems, you can find the answer in a book and work it out by yourself or with your partner’s help. If that approach doesn’t solve the problem, make an appointment to see a specialist. And don’t dillydally. Do it today.\r\n\r\nWhen it comes to most physical problems, be it a toothache or the need for new eyeglasses, you don’t hesitate to go for help. But if the issue is sexual, you become too embarrassed to talk about it. But take it from me, we sex therapists have heard it all. Sex is what we talk about all day long, and we won’t think you’re strange because you have a sexual problem.\r\n\r\nAnd if you’re worried that going to a sex therapist will bleed you dry, the techniques we use are short term. Sometimes even only one or two sessions can work wonders and would be well worth the investment.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab8\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709995\"></a>Use your sense of touch</h2>\r\nResearchers have done experiments in which they’ve left baby monkeys alone in a cage without any other monkeys, and the baby monkeys soon went crazy. Just giving those monkeys a soft cloth doll that they could cuddle up to was sometimes enough to get them through this solitary confinement. You’re not a monkey, but you and your partner do have the same need to be touched.\r\n\r\nPart of that touching should take place while you’re having sex. Remember, though, that the art of arousing your partner through foreplay doesn’t mean just touching the genitals. You should pay attention to every square inch of your lover. Touch her hair, stroke his back, caress her legs, rub his feet. You can both enjoy the tactile sensations.\r\n\r\nBut this touching has to be a continuous process. You have to touch each other every day, several times a day, without any thought to having sex. You have to hug each other. Hold each other’s hands. Rub each other’s shoulders. Wash each other. All of that touching will bring you closer, so when the time comes to actually engage in sex, the experience will be heightened for both of you.\r\n<p class=\"article-tips tip\">Don’t limit this touching to your hands. Play footsie and feel how sensitive your feet can be. Lie on top of one another and feel your lover with your whole body. Put your cheeks together — both sets! Don’t be afraid to explore.</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab9\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709997\"></a>Satisfy your partner even if you don’t feel like sex</h2>\r\nEach person has a different sexual appetite, so no couple is perfectly matched. One person always wants more sex than the other. And as the years go by, those roles may even switch, and then switch back again.\r\n\r\nWhat can you do about this? Help each other out, that’s what. You’re supposed to be lovers, so just because you aren’t in the mood for an orgasm doesn’t mean that you can’t help your partner reach sexual satisfaction. No law says that both of you have to have an orgasm every time.\r\n\r\nNow, some women “fake it.” But you don’t need to fake it. You can very simply, out of love for your partner, help him or her have an orgasm in whichever way suits you best. If you’re a woman, and you want to just lie back, that’s fine. If you’re a man, you can use your finger, or your tongue, or a vibrator.\r\n<p class=\"article-tips tip\">The point is, don’t force your partner to be sexually frustrated on a regular basis just because your sexual appetites are different. Remember, the Golden Rule applies to sex just as much as to every other aspect of life.</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab10\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709998\"></a>Adjust to changes caused by aging</h2>\r\nIf you put on some weight, do you go around with your pants unbuttoned or do you buy a new pair? 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Instead of being ashamed, let yourself get carried away by it, learn to enjoy it, and work it into being a pleasant part of foreplay.\r\n\r\nPost-menopausal women no longer lubricate the way they used to, and this problem can cause intercourse to become painful for them. This lack of lubrication is no calamity, however, because every drugstore sells very good products that can take the place of your natural lubricants and make sex just as enjoyable as it was before menopause.\r\n\r\nNo matter how well the years treat you, your body will undergo changes. But instead of letting those changes negatively impact your sex life, find out how to adapt to them and make sure that you continue to enjoy great sex your whole life through.","blurb":"","authors":[{"authorId":34431,"name":"Dr. Ruth K. Westheimer","slug":"dr-ruth-k-westheimer","description":" Dr. Ruth K. 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The basic idea behind most dating apps is the same: The app helps you find potential companions who might <a href=\"//coursofppt.com/relationships/dating/dating-for-dummies-cheat-sheet/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">bring some romance into your life.</a>\r\n\r\nI have no problem with dating apps, if people are intelligent about the way in which they use them.\r\n\r\nWatch this video, to find out why I encourage you to meet people face-to-face and engage in conversations rather than relying solely on dating apps. See also \"<a href=\"//coursofppt.com/relationships/dating/how-to-deal-with-loneliness-through-conversation/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">How to Deal with Loneliness through Conversation</a>.\"\r\n<div class=\"x2 x2-top\">\r\n\r\n<div class=\"video-player-organism\"></div>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\nThe apps themselves come and go. Tinder and Match.com may be the best known, but there are many, many others, such as Hinge, Bumble, Christian Mingle, eHarmony, JDate, OK Cupid, Senior People Meet, Wingman, and Zoosk.\r\n\r\nSome people use these apps only to bring some sex into their lives. If that’s what both parties are looking for, fine. But we humans need emotional relationships to feel fully satisfied, and so finding such a relationship should be your ultimate goal.\r\n\r\nThere are more “serious” apps that charge a monthly fee, supposedly using science to put you together with someone whom you’ll find appealing, and other free dating apps.\r\n\r\nWhich type of app you should rely on to find love depends on how much time you’re willing to invest. If you’re paying for the service, hopefully the weeding out process will be somewhat effective. If it’s free, then you become the one doing the initial weeding. And if you have a lot of money to burn, there remain matchmakers who work with you one-on-one.\r\n\r\nYou might also think of using a dating app that appeals to people who are similar to you in some way. Some apps are for an older crowd, like Our Time or Silver Singles. Apps like BlackPeopleMeet or BlackSingles.com are, obviously, for African Americans, while LatinAmericanCupid.com is for Latino people.\r\n\r\nThere are also plenty of niche dating services whose titles are fairly self-explanatory, including: Fitness Singles, BiCupid, Military Cupid, Dating4Disbled, and PositiveSingles. By helping you to hone in on other singles who have something in common with you, you’ll increase your chances of meeting someone you really like.\r\n<p class=\"article-tips tip\">Dating apps are often more suited to metropolitan areas, where there’s a larger pool of single people. A dating app does you no good if most of the people on it live far away. Before you decide on an app, see which ones seem to have the most people who live nearby.</p>\r\n<p class=\"article-tips tip\">Also, ask your friends which dating app they recommend. By doing some early research, you won’t waste as much time becoming interested in people who aren’t suitable because of the distance you’d have to cross just to have a cup of coffee together.</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab1\" >Slow down, be intentional, and look at more than profile pictures</h2>\r\nFor many, it’s the swiping away aspect that’s most appealing. If one of these folks has ten minutes with nothing to do, swiping takes the place of playing Candy Crush.\r\n\r\nBut with so many people adopting the attitude that this is more entertainment than a serious attempt to find true love, what are the odds of meeting with success? And that’s especially true because some of those doing the swiping are actually in a committed relationship — they’re looking for a safe way to cheat, not establish a relationship.\r\n\r\n[caption id=\"attachment_263314\" align=\"alignnone\" width=\"535\"]<img class=\"size-full wp-image-263314\" src=\"//coursofppt.com/wp-content/uploads/sex-dating-apps.jpg\" alt=\"dating apps\" width=\"535\" height=\"364\" /> © Kaspars Grinvalds / Shutterstock.com[/caption]\r\n<p class=\"article-tips remember\">Again, the trick is to slow down. Don’t just wear out your fingers swiping but spend the time to look more in depth at those you discover online by actually reading their profiles. Do this even of people with pictures that don't really appeal to you. You’re not a casting director or editor of a fashion magazine. You’re looking for qualities that run deeper than the surface. Make yourself believe that, and then using an app can become more rewarding.</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab2\" >The dangers — physical and emotional — of dating apps</h2>\r\nThere was a time I worried that the dangers of meeting total strangers were too great for app dating to be acceptable. But with so many people now actively taking part, the danger, while still there, becomes less. In other words, as the number of people using these apps grows, the percentage who are weirdos becomes smaller. But never forget that the \"weirdos\" are still out there.\r\n\r\nThere’s another danger presented by these apps, and that’s the one posed to existing relationships. If you have a fight with your partner, you’re unlikely to run to a singles bar to check out what alternatives are out there. But what about opening Tinder and swiping for a while? These apps can make it appear too easy to change partners. So instead of being willing to work on a relationship, many people instead resolve to leave.\r\n\r\nIn some cases the relationship wasn’t salvageable, but I would advise that if your relationship is rocky, make an honest effort to work it out before you begin swiping.\r\n\r\nWhen it comes to kinds of dates, remember that you can make a great impression without dinner at a five-star restaurant or tickets to the ballet. Simply getting a drink at a brewery would do. Miniature golf is also inexpensive, as would be going for a walk in the park, bowling, or meeting at a Starbucks.\r\n\r\nBecause of the dating apps, some people go on a lot of dates, and that can lead to a lot of money being spent. And since it’s often the man who picks up the tab, that can be a financial burden. But even if you always share the cost, after a while it can add up.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab3\" >Picture perfect</h2>\r\nA quick word about the type of picture you post online. It’s been shown that an action picture receives more of a positive response than a static one. Plus, a profile picture of you doing something you enjoy sends two pieces of information — what you look like and what you like to do.\r\n\r\nThis doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t pick the best possible photo of you playing golf, for example. You could even hire a professional photographer to take the snapshot of you swinging a club, if you’re so inclined. Just make it an action shot rather than just you looking into the camera the way you did in your high school yearbook.\r\n\r\nI witnessed a young lady taking a wide variety of selfies at a tourist spot in Greece. From the way she was posing, it was clear that these photos were for a dating app. She was being smart because the gorgeous background was definitely more stimulating than a blank wall. So, when taking a picture for a dating app, think before you snap.\r\n<p class=\"article-tips remember\">Remember that life isn’t a Twitter feed. No one person is going to be able to offer you a constant flow of witty conversation day in and day out. Many subtle qualities go into what makes someone a good partner, and these qualities take time to be appreciated. So, while I’m not saying not to use apps to find dates, I am saying not to let the app mentally ruin your chances of turning a date into a partner. No matter how fast your fingers can swipe, when the time comes to actually be standing side by side, slow down.</p>","description":"Dating apps are very popular these days. The basic idea behind most dating apps is the same: The app helps you find potential companions who might <a href=\"//coursofppt.com/relationships/dating/dating-for-dummies-cheat-sheet/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">bring some romance into your life.</a>\r\n\r\nI have no problem with dating apps, if people are intelligent about the way in which they use them.\r\n\r\nWatch this video, to find out why I encourage you to meet people face-to-face and engage in conversations rather than relying solely on dating apps. See also \"<a href=\"//coursofppt.com/relationships/dating/how-to-deal-with-loneliness-through-conversation/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">How to Deal with Loneliness through Conversation</a>.\"\r\n<div class=\"x2 x2-top\">\r\n\r\n<div class=\"video-player-organism\"></div>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\nThe apps themselves come and go. Tinder and Match.com may be the best known, but there are many, many others, such as Hinge, Bumble, Christian Mingle, eHarmony, JDate, OK Cupid, Senior People Meet, Wingman, and Zoosk.\r\n\r\nSome people use these apps only to bring some sex into their lives. If that’s what both parties are looking for, fine. But we humans need emotional relationships to feel fully satisfied, and so finding such a relationship should be your ultimate goal.\r\n\r\nThere are more “serious” apps that charge a monthly fee, supposedly using science to put you together with someone whom you’ll find appealing, and other free dating apps.\r\n\r\nWhich type of app you should rely on to find love depends on how much time you’re willing to invest. If you’re paying for the service, hopefully the weeding out process will be somewhat effective. If it’s free, then you become the one doing the initial weeding. And if you have a lot of money to burn, there remain matchmakers who work with you one-on-one.\r\n\r\nYou might also think of using a dating app that appeals to people who are similar to you in some way. Some apps are for an older crowd, like Our Time or Silver Singles. Apps like BlackPeopleMeet or BlackSingles.com are, obviously, for African Americans, while LatinAmericanCupid.com is for Latino people.\r\n\r\nThere are also plenty of niche dating services whose titles are fairly self-explanatory, including: Fitness Singles, BiCupid, Military Cupid, Dating4Disbled, and PositiveSingles. By helping you to hone in on other singles who have something in common with you, you’ll increase your chances of meeting someone you really like.\r\n<p class=\"article-tips tip\">Dating apps are often more suited to metropolitan areas, where there’s a larger pool of single people. A dating app does you no good if most of the people on it live far away. Before you decide on an app, see which ones seem to have the most people who live nearby.</p>\r\n<p class=\"article-tips tip\">Also, ask your friends which dating app they recommend. By doing some early research, you won’t waste as much time becoming interested in people who aren’t suitable because of the distance you’d have to cross just to have a cup of coffee together.</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab1\" >Slow down, be intentional, and look at more than profile pictures</h2>\r\nFor many, it’s the swiping away aspect that’s most appealing. If one of these folks has ten minutes with nothing to do, swiping takes the place of playing Candy Crush.\r\n\r\nBut with so many people adopting the attitude that this is more entertainment than a serious attempt to find true love, what are the odds of meeting with success? And that’s especially true because some of those doing the swiping are actually in a committed relationship — they’re looking for a safe way to cheat, not establish a relationship.\r\n\r\n[caption id=\"attachment_263314\" align=\"alignnone\" width=\"535\"]<img class=\"size-full wp-image-263314\" src=\"//coursofppt.com/wp-content/uploads/sex-dating-apps.jpg\" alt=\"dating apps\" width=\"535\" height=\"364\" /> © Kaspars Grinvalds / Shutterstock.com[/caption]\r\n<p class=\"article-tips remember\">Again, the trick is to slow down. Don’t just wear out your fingers swiping but spend the time to look more in depth at those you discover online by actually reading their profiles. Do this even of people with pictures that don't really appeal to you. You’re not a casting director or editor of a fashion magazine. You’re looking for qualities that run deeper than the surface. Make yourself believe that, and then using an app can become more rewarding.</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab2\" >The dangers — physical and emotional — of dating apps</h2>\r\nThere was a time I worried that the dangers of meeting total strangers were too great for app dating to be acceptable. But with so many people now actively taking part, the danger, while still there, becomes less. In other words, as the number of people using these apps grows, the percentage who are weirdos becomes smaller. But never forget that the \"weirdos\" are still out there.\r\n\r\nThere’s another danger presented by these apps, and that’s the one posed to existing relationships. If you have a fight with your partner, you’re unlikely to run to a singles bar to check out what alternatives are out there. But what about opening Tinder and swiping for a while? These apps can make it appear too easy to change partners. So instead of being willing to work on a relationship, many people instead resolve to leave.\r\n\r\nIn some cases the relationship wasn’t salvageable, but I would advise that if your relationship is rocky, make an honest effort to work it out before you begin swiping.\r\n\r\nWhen it comes to kinds of dates, remember that you can make a great impression without dinner at a five-star restaurant or tickets to the ballet. Simply getting a drink at a brewery would do. Miniature golf is also inexpensive, as would be going for a walk in the park, bowling, or meeting at a Starbucks.\r\n\r\nBecause of the dating apps, some people go on a lot of dates, and that can lead to a lot of money being spent. And since it’s often the man who picks up the tab, that can be a financial burden. But even if you always share the cost, after a while it can add up.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab3\" >Picture perfect</h2>\r\nA quick word about the type of picture you post online. 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A curved penis simply can be a result of individual anatomy. If, however, your penis has a pronounced curve or bends sharply to the left or right — especially if penetration is impossible or if an erection is painful — you should see a urologist. You may suffer from <i>Peyronie’s disease</i> — where scar tissue develops in the penis.\r\n\r\nThe direction that an erect penis takes depends on the proportion of <i>crus</i> (penis under the skin) to exposed penis. Men with a shorter crus, and thus a longer penis, are more likely to have an erection that points downward, while an erect penis that has a longer crus will probably point outward, or even straight up. Sometimes the penis also bends to the left or to the right. In the vast majority of cases, the curve falls well within the norms of most men and should not be a deterrent for a relationship.\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab1\" >Signs of Peyronie's disease</h2>\r\nOnce in a while, a man does have a more pronounced curve than most. Even the majority of these men don’t have a problem in bed, although a few may have to adjust the positions they use.\r\n<div class=\"imageBlock\" style=\"width: 195px;\">\r\n\r\n<img src=\"//coursofppt.com/wp-content/uploads/211603.image0.jpg\" alt=\"Peyronie's disease results in a curved penis.\" width=\"195\" height=\"300\" />\r\n<div class=\"imageCaption\">Peyronie's disease results in a curved penis.</div>\r\n</div>\r\nPeyronie’s disease inflicts some men with a penis that bends so severely when it becomes erect that intercourse becomes impossible. The cause of the disease is unknown; in many instances, it arises as a result of an injury. In early stages of the disease, men usually experience pain associated with having an erection. Sometimes that pain begins before the actual curvature starts and serves as an early indicator of the problem.\r\n\r\nHow bad can Peyronie’s disease get? Bad enough for doctors to describe severe cases in which the erect penis looks like a corkscrew. 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Some men are so embarrassed by their condition that they refuse to get help, but urologists have helped many men with this problem, so you have no reason to be shy.\r\n<p class=\"Tip\">If the first urologist you consult can’t help you, look for another one. Doing so is worth the effort.</p>","description":"A bent penis is an erect penis that curves to one side or the other — and in most cases, it is absolutely normal. A curved penis simply can be a result of individual anatomy. If, however, your penis has a pronounced curve or bends sharply to the left or right — especially if penetration is impossible or if an erection is painful — you should see a urologist. You may suffer from <i>Peyronie’s disease</i> — where scar tissue develops in the penis.\r\n\r\nThe direction that an erect penis takes depends on the proportion of <i>crus</i> (penis under the skin) to exposed penis. Men with a shorter crus, and thus a longer penis, are more likely to have an erection that points downward, while an erect penis that has a longer crus will probably point outward, or even straight up. Sometimes the penis also bends to the left or to the right. In the vast majority of cases, the curve falls well within the norms of most men and should not be a deterrent for a relationship.\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab1\" >Signs of Peyronie's disease</h2>\r\nOnce in a while, a man does have a more pronounced curve than most. Even the majority of these men don’t have a problem in bed, although a few may have to adjust the positions they use.\r\n<div class=\"imageBlock\" style=\"width: 195px;\">\r\n\r\n<img src=\"//coursofppt.com/wp-content/uploads/211603.image0.jpg\" alt=\"Peyronie's disease results in a curved penis.\" width=\"195\" height=\"300\" />\r\n<div class=\"imageCaption\">Peyronie's disease results in a curved penis.</div>\r\n</div>\r\nPeyronie’s disease inflicts some men with a penis that bends so severely when it becomes erect that intercourse becomes impossible. The cause of the disease is unknown; in many instances, it arises as a result of an injury. In early stages of the disease, men usually experience pain associated with having an erection. Sometimes that pain begins before the actual curvature starts and serves as an early indicator of the problem.\r\n\r\nHow bad can Peyronie’s disease get? Bad enough for doctors to describe severe cases in which the erect penis looks like a corkscrew. 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Men can easily feed themselves. But they’re not so crazy about taking care of some of their other needs by themselves — and I’m not talking about sewing on buttons. So, pay attention to the tips here if you want to get the most from your relationship and find out what men find sexy.\r\n\r\nSee \"<a href=\"//coursofppt.com/relationships/sex/dr-ruth-10-things-women-wish-men-knew-about-sex/\">Dr. Ruth: 10 Things Women Wish Men Knew about Sex</a>\" for the opposite sex's viewpoint.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab1\" >Be aware of mixed signals</h2>\r\nFact: Your man finds it exciting to look at your body. Sometimes you’re well aware of this trait, and you’ll don a sexy nightgown. Other times, you’re not thinking about his reaction, but you’re hot and tear your clothes off in front of him. Then you expect him to be a mind reader and understand the difference. This might be an intellectual exercise he could accomplish, but when it comes to how his penis reacts, his control is lacking.\r\n\r\nIf you’re parading around naked and you notice his tongue is hanging out by his navel, but you have absolutely no desire/time/inclination to have sex, here’s what I suggest you do: throw out a time. This way you’re not really turning him down, just delaying his gratification.\r\n\r\nIf you spend a lot of time together, mixed signals are just a natural occurrence. Just bear in mind that in the sexual arena, you have two audiences, his mind and his penis, which at times have been known to get their own signals crossed.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab2\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709894\"></a>Lack of sex really can hurt</h2>\r\nThe term is <em>blue balls,</em> and whether a man’s testicles actually turn any colors I don’t know, but they can absolutely ache from the need for sexual release. Now, the pain isn’t so acute that a man can’t stand it, and, if no one else is around, all he has to do is masturbate to bring needed relief. But he’s also not putting you on when he says that his testicles hurt.\r\n\r\nIf you get a man that excited and then change your mind about giving him sexual release, he won’t be pleased. Not only does his ego suffer, but his testicles do as well.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab3\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709895\"></a>Sometimes wasting electricity is okay</h2>\r\nMen get turned on visually, which is why they’d really appreciate it if you would cover up a bit less when the time comes to make love. I know that you like to cuddle and be cozy, and that a dark room with the covers drawn up to your chin helps you feel safe enough to get aroused, but for the sake of your man, how about leaving the lights on once in a while?\r\n\r\nNow, I’m not asking you to cover your room with mirrors because I understand that you have to be able to look your mother-in-law in the eye when she visits. But as long as the room temperature is warm enough not to cause goose bumps, give your man the visual stimuli he desires.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab4\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709896\"></a>Teamwork is important</h2>\r\nSo many of you women are sick of sports. Having your man spend Sunday afternoons watching other men hitting each other may seem boring, but I believe sports can teach you a lesson about sex.\r\n\r\nTo you women, verbal communication is very important. Because men, in general, don’t talk as much — especially the strong, silent type — it seems as if they don’t communicate to each other. But many men prefer to bond not by talking but by doing something together, as a team. Having played sports as young men and discovered how to appreciate the benefits of teamwork, men find that watching sports has a great attraction.\r\n\r\nSo how does this idea affect your love life? For one thing, the more teamwork you have in your sex life, the more communication you’ll have between the two of you, and the happier you’ll both be. Here are some suggestions to get the action started:\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>The simplest thing you can do is to initiate sex once in a while if you tend to leave that task to him.</li>\r\n \t<li>Buy some sex toys, edible underwear for example, and present them to him one night.</li>\r\n \t<li>Suggest writing up a game plan for the night’s sexual activities. Include starting time, which positions, and which room of the house.</li>\r\n \t<li>Buy a team uniform, maybe matching T-shirts, that can serve as a secret signal between the two of you that — if you’re both wearing them — then that night, or that afternoon, is reserved for sex.</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nTake an active part in sex and score some points that put you right at the top of his standings.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab5\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709897\"></a>Celebrities’ bodies are not a threat</h2>\r\nKim Kardashian was said to have “broken” the Internet when she appeared nude in a photo spread. Did your man see those pictures? Probably. Should your self-esteem take a hit because your body doesn’t quite match hers? Definitely not.\r\n\r\nI know there are women who feel badly that their body doesn’t resemble that of a supermodel. Some actually visit plastic surgeons in order to make up for what they perceive to be deficiencies. But let me be clear, you’re not in competition with these celebrity bodies.\r\n\r\nYes, your man may enjoy looking at the <em>Sports Illustrated</em> swimsuit models. He even may fantasize about spending some time with one or more of them on a desert island. But that in no way detracts from the appeal of the body he actually shares a bed with. That body — your body — is attached to the woman he loves and so is special.\r\n\r\nIf your man exaggerates and does nothing but stare at long-legged buxom women all day, you can say something, but don’t act jealous over his occasional ogling of the latest bombshell. The Bible may have said not to covet your neighbor’s wife, but in those days of stone tablets admiring women worlds away wasn’t even an imagined possibility. Today such images are all around us, and better not to spoil your relationship by trying to make your partner feel guilty for partaking every now and then.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab6\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709898\"></a>A little tact, please</h2>\r\nMen are not in full control of their erections. Sometimes they show up when they’re not wanted; other times, they refuse to board the bus no matter how desperately the driver begs. If a man’s having difficulties obtaining or maintaining his erection, the last thing he, or his penis, needs is a snide comment from you.\r\n\r\nYou can perhaps be helpful by some physical gesture with your hand or mouth. You don’t have to pretend that it’s sticking straight up when it’s hanging there pointed at the ground. But be aware that the wrong comment can make the situation worse. The more understanding you are, the better his chances of turning the situation around.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab7\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709899\"></a>If you really loved me, you’d . . .</h2>\r\nI admit I felt a little prudish about putting what this tip is about right in the title, though most of you ladies can guess what I’m talking about. And, certainly, many of you keep your man happy by performing that certain act.\r\n\r\nRight, the topic here is fellatio — oral sex on a man.\r\n\r\nNow, although I’m speaking on behalf of men here, I must state categorically that I absolutely do not want any woman to do anything that really repulses her. But before you ignore this section, ask yourself: Is oral sex really that repulsive? I’m not saying that you have to necessarily swallow his semen, but is just kissing and licking his penis that big of a deal?\r\n\r\nIf you’re concerned about cleanliness, then go get a washcloth and clean his penis. He won’t object, unless you use cold water.\r\n\r\nI really do not believe that men who crave this sex act see it as degrading to women. Rather, they want it because they enjoy the sensations. And maybe you do, too, when he does it to you. Even if fellatio never becomes a regular part of your sexual repertoire, you can at least make his birthday special.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab8\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709900\"></a>The way to a man’s heart is not through his stomach</h2>\r\nI don’t know where that saying that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach started, but unless you only asked men living in a retirement community, I don’t think you’ll find the majority in agreement. And I’m not sure that even the seniors would give their vote.\r\n\r\nMen like to eat, but if they have to do something for themselves, they’d prefer to feed themselves. Some women, after a few years or a few kids, seem to withdraw from sex. A wife may think that as long as she feeds her husband and maybe irons his shirts, that’s all he really needs from her.\r\n\r\nThat idea may work for a while, but then he’ll get a new secretary, or go to a convention in Las Vegas, or just look differently at the neighbor’s wife, and all of a sudden, his attention is permanently drawn elsewhere.\r\n\r\nAs a man ages, his sexual urges may come further apart, but they’re still there. If, for some reason, you seem to have lost your sexual desire, don’t just assume it happens because you’re a woman. That’s nonsense. Loss of sexual appetite is almost always caused by something specific, so find a specialist — a sex therapist or marital therapist — who can help you overcome this problem.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab9\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709901\"></a>It might just be sex</h2>\r\nI don’t want to make any excuses for men who fool around, especially in these days when he can catch a serious disease and then infect his innocent wife. But in general, men and women are different when it comes to sex. Most women need romance to become aroused, which means that their emotions are almost always involved, but most men can have sex without the act triggering an emotional response in them.\r\n\r\nThis is the reason that prostitutes have always been doing business with men on a quickie basis, while the few <em>gigolos</em> (male prostitutes for women) that exist almost always perform for a long term.\r\n<p class=\"article-tips warning\">You need to understand this fact because if you ever catch your man having had sex with another woman, you shouldn’t throw away a long-term relationship without doing a careful evaluation. If it really looks like he was only in it for the sex, and if you both love each other, you may be able to save your relationship. I’m certainly not advocating sticking around with a philanderer, the guy who does it over and over again. But in some instances, you’d be better off forgiving and forgetting (although you can never totally forget). If you need help with this, seek out a marital counselor.</p>\r\n\r\n<h2 id=\"tab10\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709902\"></a>The older a man gets, the more help he needs</h2>\r\nNot every man knows that, at some point in his life, he loses the ability to have a <em>psychogenic erection </em>— an erection that comes by itself, without any physical manipulation — but it’s a fact. This problem doesn’t signal the end of your love life; instead, it means that your partner now needs foreplay as much as you do.\r\n\r\nSome of you women may decide that this is the moment to pay him back for all the times that he didn’t give you enough foreplay, but I’m telling you not to play those games. When this change first starts to happen to a man, he gets pretty upset about it. The first few times he runs across a situation where his penis used to take off for the races by itself and now just lies there can be downright scary. So have mercy on him and don’t add to his plight.","description":"Ladies, if any of you still believe that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, then you have a lot to figure out about men. Men can easily feed themselves. But they’re not so crazy about taking care of some of their other needs by themselves — and I’m not talking about sewing on buttons. So, pay attention to the tips here if you want to get the most from your relationship and find out what men find sexy.\r\n\r\nSee \"<a href=\"//coursofppt.com/relationships/sex/dr-ruth-10-things-women-wish-men-knew-about-sex/\">Dr. Ruth: 10 Things Women Wish Men Knew about Sex</a>\" for the opposite sex's viewpoint.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab1\" >Be aware of mixed signals</h2>\r\nFact: Your man finds it exciting to look at your body. Sometimes you’re well aware of this trait, and you’ll don a sexy nightgown. Other times, you’re not thinking about his reaction, but you’re hot and tear your clothes off in front of him. Then you expect him to be a mind reader and understand the difference. This might be an intellectual exercise he could accomplish, but when it comes to how his penis reacts, his control is lacking.\r\n\r\nIf you’re parading around naked and you notice his tongue is hanging out by his navel, but you have absolutely no desire/time/inclination to have sex, here’s what I suggest you do: throw out a time. This way you’re not really turning him down, just delaying his gratification.\r\n\r\nIf you spend a lot of time together, mixed signals are just a natural occurrence. Just bear in mind that in the sexual arena, you have two audiences, his mind and his penis, which at times have been known to get their own signals crossed.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab2\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709894\"></a>Lack of sex really can hurt</h2>\r\nThe term is <em>blue balls,</em> and whether a man’s testicles actually turn any colors I don’t know, but they can absolutely ache from the need for sexual release. Now, the pain isn’t so acute that a man can’t stand it, and, if no one else is around, all he has to do is masturbate to bring needed relief. But he’s also not putting you on when he says that his testicles hurt.\r\n\r\nIf you get a man that excited and then change your mind about giving him sexual release, he won’t be pleased. Not only does his ego suffer, but his testicles do as well.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab3\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709895\"></a>Sometimes wasting electricity is okay</h2>\r\nMen get turned on visually, which is why they’d really appreciate it if you would cover up a bit less when the time comes to make love. I know that you like to cuddle and be cozy, and that a dark room with the covers drawn up to your chin helps you feel safe enough to get aroused, but for the sake of your man, how about leaving the lights on once in a while?\r\n\r\nNow, I’m not asking you to cover your room with mirrors because I understand that you have to be able to look your mother-in-law in the eye when she visits. But as long as the room temperature is warm enough not to cause goose bumps, give your man the visual stimuli he desires.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab4\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709896\"></a>Teamwork is important</h2>\r\nSo many of you women are sick of sports. Having your man spend Sunday afternoons watching other men hitting each other may seem boring, but I believe sports can teach you a lesson about sex.\r\n\r\nTo you women, verbal communication is very important. Because men, in general, don’t talk as much — especially the strong, silent type — it seems as if they don’t communicate to each other. But many men prefer to bond not by talking but by doing something together, as a team. Having played sports as young men and discovered how to appreciate the benefits of teamwork, men find that watching sports has a great attraction.\r\n\r\nSo how does this idea affect your love life? For one thing, the more teamwork you have in your sex life, the more communication you’ll have between the two of you, and the happier you’ll both be. Here are some suggestions to get the action started:\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>The simplest thing you can do is to initiate sex once in a while if you tend to leave that task to him.</li>\r\n \t<li>Buy some sex toys, edible underwear for example, and present them to him one night.</li>\r\n \t<li>Suggest writing up a game plan for the night’s sexual activities. Include starting time, which positions, and which room of the house.</li>\r\n \t<li>Buy a team uniform, maybe matching T-shirts, that can serve as a secret signal between the two of you that — if you’re both wearing them — then that night, or that afternoon, is reserved for sex.</li>\r\n</ul>\r\nTake an active part in sex and score some points that put you right at the top of his standings.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab5\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709897\"></a>Celebrities’ bodies are not a threat</h2>\r\nKim Kardashian was said to have “broken” the Internet when she appeared nude in a photo spread. Did your man see those pictures? Probably. Should your self-esteem take a hit because your body doesn’t quite match hers? Definitely not.\r\n\r\nI know there are women who feel badly that their body doesn’t resemble that of a supermodel. Some actually visit plastic surgeons in order to make up for what they perceive to be deficiencies. But let me be clear, you’re not in competition with these celebrity bodies.\r\n\r\nYes, your man may enjoy looking at the <em>Sports Illustrated</em> swimsuit models. He even may fantasize about spending some time with one or more of them on a desert island. But that in no way detracts from the appeal of the body he actually shares a bed with. That body — your body — is attached to the woman he loves and so is special.\r\n\r\nIf your man exaggerates and does nothing but stare at long-legged buxom women all day, you can say something, but don’t act jealous over his occasional ogling of the latest bombshell. The Bible may have said not to covet your neighbor’s wife, but in those days of stone tablets admiring women worlds away wasn’t even an imagined possibility. Today such images are all around us, and better not to spoil your relationship by trying to make your partner feel guilty for partaking every now and then.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab6\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709898\"></a>A little tact, please</h2>\r\nMen are not in full control of their erections. Sometimes they show up when they’re not wanted; other times, they refuse to board the bus no matter how desperately the driver begs. If a man’s having difficulties obtaining or maintaining his erection, the last thing he, or his penis, needs is a snide comment from you.\r\n\r\nYou can perhaps be helpful by some physical gesture with your hand or mouth. You don’t have to pretend that it’s sticking straight up when it’s hanging there pointed at the ground. But be aware that the wrong comment can make the situation worse. The more understanding you are, the better his chances of turning the situation around.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab7\" ><a name=\"_Toc5709899\"></a>If you really loved me, you’d . . .</h2>\r\nI admit I felt a little prudish about putting what this tip is about right in the title, though most of you ladies can guess what I’m talking about. And, certainly, many of you keep your man happy by performing that certain act.\r\n\r\nRight, the topic here is fellatio — oral sex on a man.\r\n\r\nNow, although I’m speaking on behalf of men here, I must state categorically that I absolutely do not want any woman to do anything that really repulses her. But before you ignore this section, ask yourself: Is oral sex really that repulsive? I’m not saying that you have to necessarily swallow his semen, but is just kissing and licking his penis that big of a deal?\r\n\r\nIf you’re concerned about cleanliness, then go get a washcloth and clean his penis. 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