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Sometimes they hold you up and sometimes they lean on you. Sometimes it's just enough to know they're standing by.\"\r\n\r\n[caption id=\"attachment_299889\" align=\"alignnone\" width=\"630\"]<img class=\"size-full wp-image-299889\" src=\"//www.coursofppt.com/wp-content/uploads/two-friends-college-campus-adobeStock_282072254.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"630\" height=\"420\" /> ©Seventyfour / Adobe Stock[/caption]\r\n\r\nWriter Elisabeth Foley points out that friendship doubles your joy and divides your grief, and that the most beautiful discovery that true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.\r\n\r\nEasily the most important place to have a friend is in marriage. For that reason, marriage counselors continually advise husbands and wives to be friends, pointing out that you may divorce your spouse, but you don't divorce your friend.\r\n\r\nFriendship stabilizes relationships in the business and social worlds as well. A friendship is priceless and should be cherished, cultivated, and nurtured.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab1\" >Remembering the golden rule</h2>\r\nWithout a doubt, the greatest human relations principle is to treat other people like you want to be treated. Friendship requires many qualities — unselfishness, genuine care for the other person, and the ability to listen when the other person needs to talk, to name a few. When you show respect for your friends and gratitude for their friendship, you'll be blessed in untold ways.\r\n<p class=\"Tip\">Sometimes just being there — particularly in times of grief — can make a difference. Not knowing what to say doesn't matter; your presence speaks volumes and says everything that needs to be said. People need to share their grief and love to share their joy. If friends were there only for those two occasions, they would still be invaluable.</p>\r\n<p class=\"Remember\">Although the way you treat others affects the way they treat you, the way another person treats you shouldn't determine the way you treat that person. Respond to rude behavior with the utmost kindness.</p>\r\nYou can't know what has gone on in the rude person's life that day, but you can assume that his or her day hasn't gone well. Maybe a loved one lost his job, her boss reprimanded her unjustly, he's coming down with the flu, or she just found out that her teenager is doing drugs.\r\n\r\nWhatever the cause of the rudeness, you don't have to accentuate the problem. A kind word or a gentle, understanding smile may help the person more than returned rudeness would. When people are rude and ugly to you, they're probably hurting; they aren't looking to hurt you.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab2\" >Giving more, getting more</h2>\r\nHere's a story that communicates a great message about friendship:\r\n<blockquote>A city man bought a farm. When he went out to look at the line fence, which had been the source of much quarreling for the previous owner, the neighboring farmer said, \"That fence is a full foot over on my side.\" \"Very well,\" said the new owner, \"we will set the fence two feet over on my side.\" \"Oh, but that's more than I claim,\" stammered the surprised farmer. \"Never mind about that. I would much rather have peace with my neighbor than two feet of earth,\" said the man. \"That's surely fine of you, sir,\" replied the farmer, \"but I couldn't let you do a thing like that. That fence just won't be moved at all.\"</blockquote>\r\nMost people seldom think through each situation completely and consider the other person's point of view. If you take the time and effort to do this, you'll end up with more friends.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab3\" >Considering foes as friends</h2>\r\nA friend looks after your own good, is attached to you by affection, and entertains other sentiments of esteem. On the other hand, a foe is someone who isn't interested in your well-being.\r\n\r\nYet some students view their teachers as enemies. However, a student's success in school partly depends on the teacher's effectiveness in the classroom. Instead of being an enemy, a teacher who corrects you and helps you to achieve can be the best friend you ever had.\r\n<p class=\"Remember\">When you receive criticism, in many cases the critic turns out to be more of a friend than a person who praises, because the criticism prompts you to improve. If you properly evaluate each piece of criticism you receive, odds are that you realize that those people really are friends.</p>\r\nThis kind of thinking, along with a little attitude adjustment, helps you to convert foes to friends, and both of you are better off.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab4\" >Making friends by being an optimist</h2>\r\nDo you enjoy being around a pessimist, someone who is generally described as being able to brighten up a room just by leaving it? The answer is obvious. Most people prefer to be around people who believe that tomorrow is going to be better than today, rather than people who believe that today is even worse than yesterday.\r\n\r\nOptimists spread cheer wherever they go and make others feel good about themselves. That's a guaranteed way to make friends.\r\n<h2 id=\"tab5\" >Capturing the pleasing personality</h2>\r\nVirtually every time you say that so-and-so has \"charisma,\" you're really talking about so-and-so's great personality. When he walks into a room, he has a presence — not just looks — that attracts attention from people around him. Or when she's in a crowd, you soon hear a soft buzz coming from the area where she is.\r\n\r\nHow do you develop a pleasing personality? Here are some steps you can take:\r\n<ul class=\"level-one\">\r\n \t<li>\r\n<p class=\"first-para\"><b>Smile when you see someone.</b> You don't have to give a wide grin — just a pleasant, friendly smile.</p>\r\n</li>\r\n \t<li>\r\n<p class=\"first-para\"><b>Speak in a pleasant, upbeat tone of voice.</b> Talk to people as if they are good friends, even if they don't really fall into that category yet.</p>\r\n</li>\r\n \t<li>\r\n<p class=\"first-para\"><b>Take a course in public speaking.</b> The ability to express yourself attracts favorable attention from many sources.</p>\r\n</li>\r\n \t<li>\r\n<p class=\"first-para\"><b>Develop a sense of humor.</b> Pick up a couple of joke books. This makes you a little more outgoing and friendly. 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If friends were there only for those two occasions, they would still be invaluable.</p>\r\n<p class=\"Remember\">Although the way you treat others affects the way they treat you, the way another person treats you shouldn't determine the way you treat that person. Respond to rude behavior with the utmost kindness.</p>\r\nYou can't know what has gone on in the rude person's life that day, but you can assume that his or her day hasn't gone well. Maybe a loved one lost his job, her boss reprimanded her unjustly, he's coming down with the flu, or she just found out that her teenager is doing drugs.\r\n\r\nWhatever the cause of the rudeness, you don't have to accentuate the problem. A kind word or a gentle, understanding smile may help the person more than returned rudeness would. 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If your current partner isn't very compatible, consider joining an introduction service or placing a personal ad to efficiently meet people who may be much more compatible with you.</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li><b>When you haven't spent enough time together to know if you're compatible: </b>If your partner has just been too busy to make the relationship a priority, discuss your perspective with him or her. See if you can come up with a compromise that is satisfactory to both of you.</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<ul>If you've just met someone recently, relax and give yourself time to get to know one another. 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In contrast, they see themselves as understanding the \"truth\" about the world, and not being afraid to face it. They tend to be critical and cynical, even putting a negative spin on their humor. They look around them and find proof for their pessimistic ideas, interpreting ambiguous situations as negative.</p>\n<p>Their negative observations <i>seem</i> correct, but it's really a vicious self-fulfilling cycle. Doom-and-gloomers <i>think</i> negatively, so they <i>feel</i> critical and pessimistic, which then makes it easy for them to <i>act</i> in negative, distrustful, critical ways. Then other people either shy away or react negatively to them — which then confirms their belief that the world really is a lousy place. Therefore, the cycle continues downward. In essence, pessimists trap themselves in a self-perpetuating cycle of gloom and doom.</p>\n<p class=\"Remember\">In reality, escaping this cycle is easy. If you think that the glass is half empty, it is. On the other hand, if you think the glass is half full, it is. In fact, the glass is both. How you <i>think</i> about the situation determines how you <i>feel</i>, and how you feel makes <i>acting</i> in an optimistic, uplifting way more or less difficult. In addition, how you act greatly influences how others respond to you.</p>\n<h2 id=\"tab2\" >Myth #2: Other people are happier than me</h2>\n<p>If you believe in this myth, you probably notice other people a lot — too much — and you idealize the relationships of others. You believe that other people have better lives and perfect relationships. You see a loving couple cuddling on the street and assume that those people have no real problems. Then you look at your own life and your own relationship, and feel very unhappy because you're not as happy as others seem to be. Moreover, nothing will make you more miserable than thinking that everyone else is having more fun than you are.</p>\n<p class=\"Remember\">No one has a perfect life or a perfect relationship. People who enjoy great blessings often find themselves dealing with great tragedies as well. For example, if you have money, you have to take precautions so others don't steal it. If you don't have money, you don't have to worry about anyone loving you for your money; you just need a way to pay the bills. Money never makes anyone happy, and not having it doesn't have to keep you from being happy either. Likewise, no other material possession ever equals happiness either.</p>\n<h2 id=\"tab3\" >Myth #3: Other people and things make me happy</h2>\n<p>The person who believes this myth uses expressions like, \"You <i>made</i> me mad!\" and, \"You <i>make</i> me so happy!\" Although these figures of speech are very colorful, they also imply that the responsibility for your happiness lies outside you. If someone <i>makes</i> you feel happy/sad/mad/whatever, then that person can also <i>make</i> you feel unhappy/less sad/not mad/whatever. If your mental state is controlled by what another person does, then you can never be truly stable. After all, you can't control what anyone does, so how can you ever be truly happy for extended periods? </p>\n<p>Well, the good news is: No one and no thing can cause you to be happy. In fact, people and things don't cause happiness at all. It's what you <i>think</i> about those other people and things that determines whether you <i>feel</i> happy or sad. Your thoughts — not outside events, the presence or absence of material objects, or other people — cause your feelings.</p>\n<p class=\"Remember\">Just as money can't make you happy, other people can't make you happy either. <i>No one can make anyone think or feel or do anything.</i> The only person who has that distinction is the person who owns the thoughts, feelings, and behavior. When you accept this truth, then and only then can you be truly happy. If you stop waiting for circumstances to change in your life, you can make yourself happy — every day — no matter what life brings. </p>\n<h2 id=\"tab4\" >Myth #4: I can't be happy single and alone</h2>\n<p>Many people believe that they can only be happy when they're with a partner. If you believe this myth, you may also believe that your partner makes you happy. Not only does such a belief place responsibility for your happiness outside you, it puts that responsibility smack dab on your partner. Wowwweeee! That really leaves you dangling in a precarious position, doesn't it? Even if you have a partner for a while, eventually that person will leave or die. So believing in this myth guarantees that you'll be unhappy for a substantial period of time.</p>\n<p>In addition, when you believe that your mate makes you happy, you tend to blame him or her when you don't feel happy. Doing that will virtually ensure that your relationship will either become very unhappy or nonexistent before long. Of course, if you believe in this myth, losing that mate will cause you to feel even more unhappy. </p>\n<p class=\"Remember\">Because happiness is a state of mind, not a reaction to a particular person, thing, or event, you can be happy no matter what happens to you. You can be happy married, widowed, divorced, or single — or in whatever marital state you find yourself. You can be happy at any age. As long as you're alive, you can make yourself happy, no matter what. Accepting that truth and acting accordingly makes you an extremely powerful person.</p>","description":"<p>Humans appeared on this earth without an owner's manual. Luckily, one of our advances has been in figuring out what causes happiness — and what doesn't. For example, everyone wants to be happy. But have you ever noticed how some people have few material possessions, yet seem very happy, while others have an abundance of material wealth, yet seem very unhappy? How can some people remain strong through many crises, while others fall apart over nothing? If money and possessions don't determine happiness, what does? Moreover, if the amount of stress you feel <i>isn't</i> determined by the intensity of an event, then what does control it?</p>\n<h2 id=\"tab1\" >Myth #1: Optimism isn't realistic</h2>\n<p>Negative, pessimistic people think that optimists are delusional; they pity them for their inability to see life as it <i>really</i> is. In contrast, they see themselves as understanding the \"truth\" about the world, and not being afraid to face it. They tend to be critical and cynical, even putting a negative spin on their humor. They look around them and find proof for their pessimistic ideas, interpreting ambiguous situations as negative.</p>\n<p>Their negative observations <i>seem</i> correct, but it's really a vicious self-fulfilling cycle. Doom-and-gloomers <i>think</i> negatively, so they <i>feel</i> critical and pessimistic, which then makes it easy for them to <i>act</i> in negative, distrustful, critical ways. Then other people either shy away or react negatively to them — which then confirms their belief that the world really is a lousy place. Therefore, the cycle continues downward. In essence, pessimists trap themselves in a self-perpetuating cycle of gloom and doom.</p>\n<p class=\"Remember\">In reality, escaping this cycle is easy. If you think that the glass is half empty, it is. On the other hand, if you think the glass is half full, it is. In fact, the glass is both. How you <i>think</i> about the situation determines how you <i>feel</i>, and how you feel makes <i>acting</i> in an optimistic, uplifting way more or less difficult. In addition, how you act greatly influences how others respond to you.</p>\n<h2 id=\"tab2\" >Myth #2: Other people are happier than me</h2>\n<p>If you believe in this myth, you probably notice other people a lot — too much — and you idealize the relationships of others. You believe that other people have better lives and perfect relationships. You see a loving couple cuddling on the street and assume that those people have no real problems. Then you look at your own life and your own relationship, and feel very unhappy because you're not as happy as others seem to be. Moreover, nothing will make you more miserable than thinking that everyone else is having more fun than you are.</p>\n<p class=\"Remember\">No one has a perfect life or a perfect relationship. People who enjoy great blessings often find themselves dealing with great tragedies as well. For example, if you have money, you have to take precautions so others don't steal it. If you don't have money, you don't have to worry about anyone loving you for your money; you just need a way to pay the bills. Money never makes anyone happy, and not having it doesn't have to keep you from being happy either. Likewise, no other material possession ever equals happiness either.</p>\n<h2 id=\"tab3\" >Myth #3: Other people and things make me happy</h2>\n<p>The person who believes this myth uses expressions like, \"You <i>made</i> me mad!\" and, \"You <i>make</i> me so happy!\" Although these figures of speech are very colorful, they also imply that the responsibility for your happiness lies outside you. If someone <i>makes</i> you feel happy/sad/mad/whatever, then that person can also <i>make</i> you feel unhappy/less sad/not mad/whatever. If your mental state is controlled by what another person does, then you can never be truly stable. After all, you can't control what anyone does, so how can you ever be truly happy for extended periods? </p>\n<p>Well, the good news is: No one and no thing can cause you to be happy. In fact, people and things don't cause happiness at all. It's what you <i>think</i> about those other people and things that determines whether you <i>feel</i> happy or sad. Your thoughts — not outside events, the presence or absence of material objects, or other people — cause your feelings.</p>\n<p class=\"Remember\">Just as money can't make you happy, other people can't make you happy either. <i>No one can make anyone think or feel or do anything.</i> The only person who has that distinction is the person who owns the thoughts, feelings, and behavior. When you accept this truth, then and only then can you be truly happy. If you stop waiting for circumstances to change in your life, you can make yourself happy — every day — no matter what life brings. </p>\n<h2 id=\"tab4\" >Myth #4: I can't be happy single and alone</h2>\n<p>Many people believe that they can only be happy when they're with a partner. If you believe this myth, you may also believe that your partner makes you happy. Not only does such a belief place responsibility for your happiness outside you, it puts that responsibility smack dab on your partner. Wowwweeee! That really leaves you dangling in a precarious position, doesn't it? Even if you have a partner for a while, eventually that person will leave or die. So believing in this myth guarantees that you'll be unhappy for a substantial period of time.</p>\n<p>In addition, when you believe that your mate makes you happy, you tend to blame him or her when you don't feel happy. Doing that will virtually ensure that your relationship will either become very unhappy or nonexistent before long. Of course, if you believe in this myth, losing that mate will cause you to feel even more unhappy. </p>\n<p class=\"Remember\">Because happiness is a state of mind, not a reaction to a particular person, thing, or event, you can be happy no matter what happens to you. You can be happy married, widowed, divorced, or single — or in whatever marital state you find yourself. You can be happy at any age. As long as you're alive, you can make yourself happy, no matter what. Accepting that truth and acting accordingly makes you an extremely powerful person.</p>","blurb":"","authors":[{"authorId":9632,"name":"Kate M. Wachs","slug":"kate-m-wachs","description":" <p><b>Dr. Kate Wachs</b> is America&#39;s only Psychologist&#45;Matchmaker. She runs The Relationship Center&#8482; in Chicago, the only full&#45;service introduction and counseling center of its kind. 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A difference also exists between businesses run predominantly to make money and those run by someone who actually cares about the service sold.</p>\n<p>Most personal matchmaking services will interview you extensively, asking questions about your relationship goal and match preferences. The service screens and researches matches for you and then notifies you via mail or phone that your match is ready. If both parties accept the match, names and numbers are exchanged, and you and your match get in touch to arrange a date. The service does the work while you have all the fun. Not bad, eh?</p>\n<p class=\"Tip\">Prices vary from almost nothing ($150) to $4,000 or more, depending on your city and the type of program involved. Good services cost at least $1,000 because of all the work involved and the cost to the company. Services go by time (one or two years) or by the number of matches you receive. Prices for personalized matchmaking services tend to be firm — <i>and should stay firm.</i></p>\n<p>In contrast to library-type matchmaking services, where you basically do all the work and can consequently bid down the price, personalized matchmaking services do as much of the work for you as possible. Your membership fee has to cover the more in-depth interviewing and screening, the matchmaker's time, and the salary of the people informing you by phone or letter about your match. Just like library services, personal services have to pay for rent, office expenses, advertising, and direct mail. Therefore, these services reap much less profit than library services and, hence, have less room to cut costs. The benefit of all that, however, is that you'll feel less like you're buying a used car!</p>\n<p><b>Pluses:</b> There are many advantages to using a credible matchmaking service. If you're a busy person with many responsibilities, you'll appreciate the convenience and time saved. Because the service does everything that you don't have to do (interviewing, screening, and researching your matches), and you spend your time doing what only you can do (dating the people and figuring out who's more compatible for you), this is the easiest, most time-efficient way to meet people. Everyone burns out when they do too much of something for too long, so allowing a service to do what you don't have to do enables you to date longer before burning out. Since dating burnout is often a problem with other methods, this is a big advantage over library services, personal ads, and any other dating method where you do more of the work.</p>\n<p>The personalized, confidential attention is often more comfortable than flipping through photos of prospective mates in a large room filled with strangers — or putting your personal information on a library shelf or in an ad for others to review. In addition, because the matchmaker has to match you, she has to keep the numbers relatively even with regard to sex, age, and other variables. This is a <i>huge</i> advantage over the library services.</p>\n<p><b>Minuses:</b> Nothing in life is perfect. So like all methods of finding a special sweetie, personal matchmaking services have their drawbacks, too — the amount depending on the specifics of that service. For example, some services have you fill out forms and interview with someone other than the matchmaker. Others claim to send your data out of town to a person or computer program that supposedly matches you. Do not use these kinds of services.</p>\n<p class=\"Warning\">If a matchmaker hasn't met you, then that person knows very little about your personality, so your matches are less likely to be compatible. Also, be wary of any service that says it's testing you. Valid, standardized psychological tests must be administered, scored, interpreted, and kept under lock and key by a psychologist. Chances are, the tests you take are just quizzes, and results may not even be taken into consideration. Quizzes aren't necessarily bad, but don't let a service convince you that it's best simply because it uses non-standardized, unreliable quizzes.</p>","description":"<p>Personal matchmaking services vary enormously, depending on their population; the credentials, training, skill, professionalism, and ethics of the matchmaker; whether the company is a nationwide franchise or a more personalized boutique service; whether the matchmaker meets you or not; and whether the service is a real business or a hobby the owner is doing to meet a special someone. A difference also exists between businesses run predominantly to make money and those run by someone who actually cares about the service sold.</p>\n<p>Most personal matchmaking services will interview you extensively, asking questions about your relationship goal and match preferences. The service screens and researches matches for you and then notifies you via mail or phone that your match is ready. If both parties accept the match, names and numbers are exchanged, and you and your match get in touch to arrange a date. The service does the work while you have all the fun. Not bad, eh?</p>\n<p class=\"Tip\">Prices vary from almost nothing ($150) to $4,000 or more, depending on your city and the type of program involved. Good services cost at least $1,000 because of all the work involved and the cost to the company. Services go by time (one or two years) or by the number of matches you receive. Prices for personalized matchmaking services tend to be firm — <i>and should stay firm.</i></p>\n<p>In contrast to library-type matchmaking services, where you basically do all the work and can consequently bid down the price, personalized matchmaking services do as much of the work for you as possible. Your membership fee has to cover the more in-depth interviewing and screening, the matchmaker's time, and the salary of the people informing you by phone or letter about your match. Just like library services, personal services have to pay for rent, office expenses, advertising, and direct mail. Therefore, these services reap much less profit than library services and, hence, have less room to cut costs. The benefit of all that, however, is that you'll feel less like you're buying a used car!</p>\n<p><b>Pluses:</b> There are many advantages to using a credible matchmaking service. If you're a busy person with many responsibilities, you'll appreciate the convenience and time saved. Because the service does everything that you don't have to do (interviewing, screening, and researching your matches), and you spend your time doing what only you can do (dating the people and figuring out who's more compatible for you), this is the easiest, most time-efficient way to meet people. Everyone burns out when they do too much of something for too long, so allowing a service to do what you don't have to do enables you to date longer before burning out. Since dating burnout is often a problem with other methods, this is a big advantage over library services, personal ads, and any other dating method where you do more of the work.</p>\n<p>The personalized, confidential attention is often more comfortable than flipping through photos of prospective mates in a large room filled with strangers — or putting your personal information on a library shelf or in an ad for others to review. 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